"He Had A Trump Figurine In His Room": 16 Women Share How They Learned Their Boyfriend's Political Beliefs The Hard Way

There's thing worse than realizing the idiosyncratic you're dating isn't who they seemed to be, particularly erstwhile the deception involves thing arsenic idiosyncratic arsenic politics. Recently, we asked women to stock however they realized their fellow was excessively MAGA to handle, and the responses scope from softly unsettling to full-blown jaw-dropping. Here's what 16 brave soldiers shared:

1. "I asked to get a garment to slumber in, and helium told maine to conscionable drawback 1 from the closet. Then, I walked into his closet to spot a literal shrine to Trump: Trump hoodies each hung up, aggregate MAGA hats, 2 flags, and a clump of different weird, assorted MAGA merch. I virtually conscionable left, blocked him, and ne'er to him spoke again."

2. "He told maine helium had voted for Kamala, and I believed him for the astir part. However, helium did accidental immoderate weird, conservative-sounding comments each erstwhile successful a while, specified arsenic complaining that his co-worker, who was a POC, stole his promotion, oregon that helium prefers Fox News to immoderate different quality source. I called him retired connected those comments, and helium ever said helium would bash amended and attributed it to increasing up successful a blimpish household. Then, erstwhile we broke up during the summer, helium told maine helium lied astir his governmental beliefs and had really voted for Trump. I consciousness truthful dumb present seeing each the signs I missed. I americium truthful gladsome to beryllium retired of that relationship!"

—Anonymous

3. "He referred to feminism arsenic a trend. That was astir each I needed to know."

4. "I met my spouse starring up to the 2016 election. I was devastated aft the election, and it didn’t adjacent hap to maine that helium whitethorn person voted for Trump due to the fact that helium was truthful benignant and comic and seemingly open. I had talked extensively astir my hatred for Trump and my concerns for what a Trump presidency would mean for maine (a pistillate immigrant) and my students (many of whom are immigrants arsenic well). A fewer weeks later, my caller fellow took maine to an highly bully dinner, and helium was truthful nervous. He said helium had to travel cleanable astir something: helium had voted for Trump. I was gut-punched and instantly started to cry. I said that that mightiness beryllium a woody breaker for me. The effect of Trump being successful bureau negatively impacted maine and my assemblage astir instantly — for context, achromatic blimpish students astatine the schoolhouse wherever I taught chanted 'Build a wall' to the faces of Hispanic students the time aft the election."

"I was wholly blindsided by his admission, but I was besides conflicted due to the fact that helium intelligibly felt atrocious astir having to stock the mode helium voted, knowing however it would impact maine and our relationship. I was successful love, and alternatively of leaving, I decided to speech astir it. We talked astir wherefore helium voted that way, what helium liked astir Trump and his messaging, and past I shared what I didn’t similar astir him and his policies. Most importantly, I introduced him to my community. He went close into a blue-collar presumption retired of precocious schoolhouse and mostly surrounded himself with radical that looked similar him, shared his background, and held the aforesaid governmental beliefs. I introduced him to the radical successful my beingness who were directly, negatively impacted by Trump and his policies. We didn’t combat astir it, we talked astir it — sure, we cried astir it excessively — but helium was truthful unfastened to proceeding my broadside that helium honestly showed maine however I could amended prosecute with radical I disagreed with. He admitted helium made a mistake, I forgave him, and we’ve been unneurotic and successful emotion ever since. He voted Democrat each the mode down successful each predetermination since, and helium is really trying to scope his begetter and get done to him to alteration his mind, too. I stock this due to the fact that determination is anticipation that radical tin alteration and larn to pb with emotion again."

—Anonymous, 38, Female, NY

5. "We are an interracial couple. A period earlier our wedding successful 2020, we were discussing Black Lives Matter, and helium said to me, 'All Lives Matter.' Uh... nary 1 said they don’t, but we are saying Black radical and our lives are conscionable arsenic important. I had to commune to determine whether to wed this man. The thought that my spouse does not recognize the conflict of being Black successful this state gave maine superior doubts."

"Six years later, we are happily married, and authorities is the lone happening we combat about. On a affirmative note, my ballot volition ever negate his."

—Anonymous, 50, Female, AZ

6. "I should’ve known helium was blimpish erstwhile I told him I was bisexual, and his effect was, basically, 'Well, conscionable don’t beryllium cheery astir me!' At first, I truly thought I could assistance him larn and understand. Nope. What yet made it click for maine that determination was nary anticipation for america was erstwhile I visited his puerility location for the archetypal time, and helium had a Trump figurine successful his room."

7. "It was during the Black Lives Matter question successful 2020. I had been seeing this feline beauteous regularly, and helium seemed truly bully — similar helium had a bully caput connected his shoulders. One day, aft we’d hooked up, helium casually went connected a rant astir however helium didn’t deliberation helium should attraction astir however Black radical are treated due to the fact that it didn’t straight impact him. Lying determination successful bed, I looked astatine him dormant successful the eyes and said, 'You are precisely what’s incorrect with America.' Safe to say… things fizzled retired beauteous rapidly aft that."

—Anonymous, Michigan, Female, 28

8. "I knew the infinitesimal helium told maine helium thinks being trans is simply a intelligence illness. Oh, and that helium thinks that helium shouldn’t person to wage taxes into a nationalist healthcare strategy if obese radical oregon addicts exist."

—Anonymous

9. "When I met my husband, helium was successful the US connected a visa. Being non-American, helium had lone vague opinions astir American politics, but helium agreed with maine connected important societal issues. After a agelong travel to get his greenish paper and, finally, citizenship, helium was capable to ballot successful the 2024 statesmanlike election. He was not a instrumentality of Harris, but besides not a Trump supporter, truthful I honestly had nary thought however helium would vote. When the predetermination was implicit and I was processing the loss, I vented to him astir however wounded and aggravated I was that truthful galore radical had chosen Trump implicit Harris due to the fact that she was a woman. He was precise quiescent portion I spoke, past reluctantly told maine that helium had formed his ballot for Trump."

"His determination was wholly economy-based, but I inactive felt truly betrayed. He was frightened that I would permission him erstwhile helium told maine (and it crossed my mind), but I had to retrieve that helium is not the force here. The existent medication is strongest erstwhile 1 broadside feels alienated by the other, and I privation much than thing to beryllium myself a tenable idiosyncratic successful the look of unreasonable events. In the past year, his sentiment has changed drastically, and if fixed the chance, helium would not marque the aforesaid choice a 2nd time. That does not assistance our existent nationalist situation, but it does springiness maine anticipation that determination are others similar him who voted the mode that they did for superficial reasons and learned their lesson."

—Anonymous, 32, Female, Georgia

10. "I met a feline from a antithetic precocious schoolhouse astatine a shot game, and helium asked maine out. We went connected a fewer dates earlier making it official. One night, astir 2 months aft we started dating, we were texting, and helium asked maine to stock 1 happening I wanted to alteration astir the world. I said I wanted to extremity satellite hunger. Then I asked his answer, and helium said, 'End immoderate benignant of gayness. No hate, it’s conscionable my opinion.' I broke up with him connected the spot."

11. "This is going to beryllium incredibly arguable astatine look value, I tin already tell. My date, present fellow of astir 3 years, voted for Trump successful some elections. He ne'er tried to fell it, and it is thing that we sermon and statement frequently. When helium did archer me, I can't accidental I was wholly shocked, arsenic I unrecorded successful Texas and enactment successful lipid and gas, but I knew that this would beryllium thing we had to navigate together, arsenic we tin some beryllium rather stubborn successful our ain ways. I know, I know: a stubborn Trump supporter? Shocking. I americium the benignant of idiosyncratic who ever tries to spot some sides of each situation, truthful I recognize that radical who 'support Trump' (whatever that means) are not each evil, hateful, oregon dumb. It means they spot a quality successful the problems that America is facing."

"Personally, I find it encouraging to cognize that 2 radical connected other sides of the governmental spectrum (okay, yes, I thin somewhat person to the mediate than the acold left) tin find a mode to pass and inactive stay respectful, kind, and objective. It gives maine anticipation that governmental bid is possible, but I'm fearful that connected some sides, a bulk of the colonisation is excessively close-minded to bash the same, which is hindering america from making immoderate existent progress."
—Anonymous, 32, Female, Texas

12. "Recently, I went connected a archetypal day with a feline who described himself arsenic mean connected his online dating profile. When the taxable of Trump came up, helium said helium didn’t similar him arsenic a person, but approved of immoderate of the things helium was doing for the country. Then helium said, 'Besides, what different prime was there?' I responded, “Are you kidding me? You, me, oregon that discarded napkin connected the level were a amended choice. Any different prime would person been better. There was nary worse choice!' Needless to say, the day was implicit close past and there."

13. "I knew we differed politically, but I tried to proceed successful our narration due to the fact that helium seemed similar specified a bully man. After the predetermination results successful 2024, I was heartbroken for our state and incapable to comprehend however radical could enactment and ballot for specified an evidently horrible quality being. He didn't recognize wherever I was coming from astatine all. He yelled astatine me, explaining however it 'really didn’t matter,' past love-bombed maine erstwhile helium said helium 'really could’ve handled it better.' What an eye-opener! It’s casual to autumn successful love, and that makes it harder to spot reddish flags. But it was wholly wide to maine aft that. I broke up with him days later. Everything helium said reinforced my decision. I was grateful for the clarity."

14. "I was surviving successful a blimpish midwestern metropolis wherever the eastbound suburbs typically location the wealthiest and astir blimpish residents. I met this feline astatine a 'hip' downtown barroom and invited him to brunch. He was intelligibly uncomfortable with the vegan spot I’d chosen, but seemed to beryllium trying his best. Then astatine the table, helium spent the full clip praising the suburbs, particularly the extra-wealthy 1 helium grew up in, and however helium couldn’t hold to determination backmost and rise a household successful a 'good' (subtext: 'white') portion of town. He couldn’t fathom wherefore anyone would privation to unrecorded anyplace else; the suburbs are safer and nicer and fundamentally civilization’s crowning achievement. I appreciated his honesty and transparency astatine least, but I didn’t person to walk overmuch clip to cognize this was not gonna beryllium a match."

—Anonymous, 43, Female, Colorado

15. "My precocious schoolhouse fellow and I were some right-leaning, but I recovered retired however antithetic we were erstwhile the COVID vaccine came out. My mindset was that if it was required for maine (through my job, school, travel, household health, etc.), I’d get the vaccine, but different I wasn’t going to spell retired of my mode to get it. My boyfriend, however, was convinced that determination was thing atrocious successful the vaccine, and helium acceptable up a program to get a fake vaccination paper successful lawsuit helium needed it. Even though helium and I are not together, I warrant I cognize who helium voted for successful 2024. I would besides similar to notation that portion I americium inactive right-leaning, I americium perfectly NOT MAGA oregon a instrumentality of Trump. Never voted for him."

16. And finally: "During appetizers connected the archetypal date, helium kept intentionally mispronouncing Kamala contempt galore corrections. This raised a flag, but erstwhile helium said each trans kids should beryllium shipped to Epstein Island, I excused myself to the restroom and left."

—Anonymous, 48, Female, Georgia

Well, that was a journey! Do you person immoderate akin stories of learning your partner's governmental beliefs were wayyyy disconnected from what you initially thought (and hoped) they were? Let america cognize successful the comments oregon utilizing the anonymous signifier below.