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Weddings are expensive, and that's not precisely a blistery take. Between the venue, food, flowers, photography, and everything else, it's casual to consciousness similar each point adds different 1000 dollars to the tab. So erstwhile u/strawberry2801 shared their unpopular sentiment that couples shouldn't beryllium expected to supply meals for wedding vendors — photographers, successful peculiar — it instantly touched a nerve.
Once radical started chiming in, it became wide this wasn't conscionable astir nutrient — it was astir expectations, fairness, and the hidden realities of the wedding industry. From burned-out photographers who present see repast clauses successful their contracts to planners moving 15-hour days without a break, here's what wedding professionals and a fewer exasperated couples had to accidental astir whether feeding your vendors is basal courtesy oregon conscionable different unnecessary expense:
1. "Not each venues let extracurricular food, and you necessitate those vendors to beryllium contiguous passim the full event."
2. "Our venue provided vendor-specific meals. They did not devour precisely the aforesaid happening we picked out. They charged america a fraction of the per-head outgo of our reception meal menu. They deserved it! They were determination longer than our full shindig!"
3. "When and wherever are they expected to get their nutrient from home, hole it, and devour it? Everyone talking astir 'workplace rules' does not look to recognize however weddings work. My constituent is: Where would determination beryllium a fridge to usage and a spot to beryllium and devour the food? Contractors astatine weddings are not employees of the venue, truthful the venue has nary work to them. Workplace rules person nary bearing present due to the fact that the 'workplace' has nary narration with the venue itself. They could support their nutrient successful their car and devour it there, but often vendors are asked to parkland farther away. This would origin a disruption successful service."
4. "Our wedding lensman has a clause successful their declaration that if nutrient is not provided, they get to permission for a fractional hr to find thing to eat. You are amended disconnected conscionable feeding them arsenic a courtesy. They are virtually going nonstop each day, particularly the photographer."
"I americium not the photographer. I americium talking astir my wedding photographer's contract! It mightiness person been an hour; I bash not retrieve however long."
5. "I genuinely bash not deliberation idiosyncratic could person near my wedding venue, bought nutrient astatine adjacent the nearest accelerated nutrient place, eaten it, and been backmost successful 30 minutes."
6. "Wedding lensman here. I went six afloat wedding seasons earlier I had to constitute this successful my declaration due to the fact that it was unheard of not to provender maine astatine a wedding. I bust my butt for clients. I spell supra and beyond to papers their peculiar moments and support them calm connected 1 of the astir stressful days of their lives. I had ne'er had a lawsuit dainty maine similar 'the help' earlier the ones who forced maine to marque this change. And conjecture what? It was fine. They wanted to dainty this exclusively similar a concern transaction, truthful that's what they got. Instead of the 1,500–2,000 photos I typically present to clients, they got my minimum contracted warrant of 500 photos positive 1 extra. Instead of sticking astir for an other 15 minutes to marque definite the communicative was told, I enactment my camera down astatine the nonstop 2nd clip was up. Instead of being arsenic originative arsenic I could with angles, compositions, and poses, I did the bare basics of what I was required to do. Nothing more, thing less."
7. "Hot nutrient for 1 other idiosyncratic is truly not a batch erstwhile compared to the remainder of the cost. Why wage thousands of dollars for a lensman and past not dainty them to a repast erstwhile they are photographing specified an important time for you? I bash deliberation a batch of weddings are overpriced, but that's usually owed to expectations getting retired of control, not the inherent items being truthful expensive. Feeding 50 to 150 radical is conscionable expensive."
8. "I'd ne'er stiff the vendors due to the fact that they could messiness with my pictures oregon wedding. However, I don't hold that this should beryllium the norm. For those saying the outgo of nutrient for vendors is minimal, what astir tiny weddings? If you lone person 30 guests, you'll inactive person a photographer, videographer, DJ, possibly a planner, bartender, and catering staff. That's an further 20% connected your measure for a 30-person wedding. I did my nutrient cheaply astatine $18 per person, but a plated repast tin easy beryllium implicit $50 per person. That's an other $100 to $300 for vendors. Wedding nutrient is overpriced arsenic it is, but it's easier to walk the wealth connected my loved ones — not random unit I don't cognize and volition ne'er spot again. I've ne'er had a occupation oregon known anyone extracurricular the wedding manufacture wherever clients are contractually obligated to provender the staff. Pack a luncheon similar the remainder of the moving world. Many days, I had to devour acold nutrient oregon a sandwich and chips."
9. "Feeding a wedding lensman is not a 'treat.' They are virtually chasing you astir each day, carrying dense cogwheel for 8 to 12 hours. The repast is sustenance."
11. "Venues often person abstracted meals they navigator for vendors. It is mostly priced into venue contracts and astatine a little outgo than the nutrient per guest. This [statement] reeks of ignorance. Guests be a wedding for betwixt 5 and six hours. Vendors tin beryllium on-site for upwards of 12 hours. It is besides not ever required, but if couples take to spell without feeding the vendors, immoderate benignant of repast buyout is usually arranged successful the vendor contract. If determination are 250 radical astatine a wedding and 12 vendors on-site each day, and the thought of your providing sustenance to them erstwhile they are each successful the mediate of obscurity astatine a distant winery oregon edifice bothers you, past astir apt you would person different mediocre qualities that whitethorn origin your vendors to publication themselves elsewhere."
12. "I bash not springiness a crap if I americium ridiculed. It already costs a minimum of $1,000 for a nonrecreational videographer. Why americium I going to walk an further $100 a sheet for him to eat? He's determination to work, not dine, too. Same with the bartender — they're determination to bash a occupation and past spell home. Spending a fewer 1000 connected the intoxicant provisions is precocious enough. They're not getting a plate, too."
13. "We bash complaint much for weddings, but it's due to the fact that they are importantly much work. Even if radical privation them to conscionable beryllium priced similar a party, they are not conscionable large parties."
14. "You person to beryllium perfect. There is nary country for mistake connected the astir important time of someone's life. A day enactment oregon thing similar that is not connected the aforesaid level. I saw a remark precocious from a lensman who explained that erstwhile shooting a wedding, helium has a overmuch higher level of responsibility. A regular photograph sprout tin beryllium redone if an SD paper is corrupted oregon thing similar that — a wedding cannot. And due to the fact that they are specified dynamic events, they often request a backup shooter, etc."
15. "As a photographer, I bash not sprout weddings without a backup shooter — and weddings often necessitate 2 to 5 times the magnitude of post-production. At a representation shoot, I sprout astir 700 to 900 frames. Weddings tin easy beryllium 2,000. Primary photographers usually edit the 2nd shooter's photos arsenic well. It's a batch of work, and your borderline for mistake is low. On apical of that, wedding photographs often request to beryllium printable, adjacent if you're not the 1 printing them. Wedding dates are besides not flexible. It's often doubly the price, but it truly is doubly the work. As acold arsenic bringing my lunch, I wouldn't attraction if I had to bash that, but bring it and enactment it where? If I permission it successful my car, bash they privation maine to instrumentality 15 minutes to spell to the car? When? Do they privation maine to find a microwave oregon DoorDash? The lensman is engaged each azygous infinitesimal the bride and groom are busy, positive others. At fractional the weddings I've been to, the bride and groom hardly person clip to eat."
16. "I hold we shouldn't person to, but it's the communal thing, truthful I did it. I tin recognize if you're astatine a venue that doesn't let extracurricular food. Otherwise, employers bash not usually supply nutrient for their employees, truthful I deliberation it's a weird anticipation erstwhile they tin bring a packed lunch similar astir everyone live does erstwhile they spell to work. Also, astir weddings are six hours, not all-day affairs similar radical support commenting."
17. "I enactment arsenic a caterer and bash tons of events, including weddings. The lawsuit ever feeds the different vendors — bartenders, servers, photographers, the balloon arch guy, the florist, etc. If they bash not, we do."
18. "My caterer really offered, arsenic portion of their package, 'free meals for vendors.' I loved it."
19. "Yes, we had it stated successful our declaration that other servings were sent for escaped for unit and vendors. Some radical — precise fewer — inactive got furious and tried to writer america for eating. Most clients were precise knowing that we were moving agelong hours nonstop and needed nutrient to support america going. The quickest mode to bash that was to devour the nutrient that was close determination and ready."
20. "An full evening repast for each idiosyncratic astatine my wedding was astir $500. There were not a batch of guests. We were paying a lensman excessively overmuch wealth already, and I wasn't consenting to walk different $1,000 connected their nutrient erstwhile they tin battalion their ain luncheon oregon dinner."
21. "As the wedding bartender, I emotion trading with the caterers. A bully caterer makes an lawsuit truthful overmuch easier for us. But I tin besides accidental I person seen a immense alteration successful however clients behave, and they're each becoming importantly worse."
22. "We fed the vendors that were determination each day, excluding the unit that already worked astatine the venue, due to the fact that they would beryllium getting regular breaks, etc. DJ, MC, lensman — each covered. Vendors similar florists are conscionable delivering things, truthful they don't request food."
23. "Former wedding lensman here. For an all-day sprout (vs. my cheaper 'ceremony only' package), providing a repast was portion of my agreement. We tin hold it's unreasonable to expect idiosyncratic to enactment successful a 12-14-hour time (10 a.m. to midnight) without a interruption to eat, right? So if you take not to supply maine with a repast astatine the reception, past I americium going to person to permission the venue and spell find determination other to drawback a bite. While your wedding enactment is giving toasts betwixt repast courses, bash you privation your lensman determination taking pictures, oregon stuffing his look astatine a adjacent Chick-fil-A? Do you privation maine concentrating connected taking large photos for you, oregon fantasizing astir wherever I americium going to halt to devour connected my mode home? Before you accidental they tin wage for a repast from the caterer themselves, that is not however caterers work. They are usually incapable to cod outgo on-site, and bash not privation to woody with that hassle."
24. "I conscionable find it comic however everyone gets upset astir overtime, agelong hours, nary breaks, and atrocious bosses — but arsenic soon arsenic they person that implicit idiosyncratic they are paying for, it's abruptly not a interest anymore."
25. "Pretty overmuch everyone successful photography, filming, and constitution receives their meals connected their jobs. This is existent for weddings, unrecorded events, film, TV commercials, and backstage events. The crushed is that the days are usually long, and you bash not privation these radical leaving. Also, buying plates for vendors is not what's making your wedding expensive."
26. "I deliberation it is much astir being a decent quality being than anything. It's a wedding. You are astir apt already spending a batch of wealth anyway. It would consciousness weird to person them sitting connected the side, eating their ain packaged food, portion everyone other is eating a due meal. It's conscionable the quality happening to do."
27. "You cognize what's worthy a batch much than a mates other plates of food? Your fucking wedding pictures. Everyone knows you bash not messiness with the radical who grip your food. Why connected world would these radical adjacent imagination of pissing disconnected the ones who tin ruin their peculiar day?"
28. "Some radical are claiming that each different manufacture requires radical to bring their ain nutrient to work. I'm guessing these radical person ne'er worked successful the nutrient oregon hospitality industry, due to the fact that practically each azygous 1 of them either has a unit repast oregon escaped nutrient marked retired per displacement (my erstwhile Starbucks relation is showing). Not to mention, there's astir ever leftover nutrient astatine a wedding. If the quality betwixt having capable and moving retired is fractional a twelve vendors, you severely under-planned."
29. "I sprout weddings with my buddy 3 oregon 4 times a year. He does it year-round. It's written into the declaration that we get food. We are with the bride and groom from infinitesimal zero until they leave. It is nonstop. We are scavenging food disconnected of snack plates whenever we can. When we devour (first successful enactment aft the wedding party), it's the archetypal repast we've had successful astir 8 hours, and the lone clip we tin really decompress — and that is precise short-lived. We are archetypal successful enactment truthful that we tin get backmost up and moving arsenic soon arsenic the wedding enactment starts again. Everybody eats astatine the aforesaid time, and past it conscionable snaps backmost to each business. Everybody's moving together, and it could messiness immoderate worldly up aft meal if 1 oregon 2 vendors were inactive disconnected determination sorting food."
30. "It's not required everyplace — lone immoderate venues. But honestly, successful my opinion, it's weird to person idiosyncratic bent retired with you each day, speech to them, airs with them, and past beryllium like, 'Forget you, devour a acold sandwich successful the corner.' I bask having a bully narration with radical I enactment with, and it makes maine blessed to assistance provender them portion they are astatine enactment for maine each day."
So, what bash you think? Should couples beryllium expected to provender their wedding vendors, oregon is it a idiosyncratic choice? If you've worked successful the manufacture — oregon planned a wedding yourself — stock your acquisition successful the comments below!
Note: Responses person been edited for length/clarity.
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