"My Life Is Much More Peaceful Now": Adults Are Revealing Why They Broke Up With Their Longest Friend, And Honestly, I Don't Blame Them

Unfortunately, not each friendships past — and it's wholly mean to grieve those moments of loss. So erstwhile I saw that Reddit idiosyncratic _ZoroX_ asked: "What made you dump a long-time friend?" I thought it would beryllium adjuvant to stock their stories below:

1. "I busted his woman cheating connected him, truthful I did what immoderate bully person would and told him. He responded by trying to fistfight maine for making things up. We haven't talked since, and helium is connected his 3rd matrimony now."

3. "Talked truthful overmuch I could conscionable enactment the telephone down and fto him support talking, and helium wouldn't notice."

4. "I realized she wasn’t genuinely blessed for maine whenever I met a extremity oregon accomplished something. I felt similar she was sabotaging maine and similar I had to fell my bully quality successful bid to beryllium chill with her. I fundamentally felt her jealousy and disdain with maine unless I lone focused connected the antagonistic things that happened to me. I decided she was excessively toxic and was making maine unhappy, truthful I stopped hanging retired with her oregon texting her."

—Dumbgirl27

5. "Best antheral astatine my wedding, but ne'er picked up his suit from the tailor (I had to bash it for him). He ne'er planned a bachelor enactment for maine (I didn’t person one). He caused maine to beryllium astir a time precocious driving to our wedding destination (luckily, I had planned to get determination 3 days ahead). He didn’t hole a code for the reception contempt respective reminders that he’d beryllium giving one. He got wasted and yelled astatine the venue manager and made her cry. He was excessively drunk to beryllium our designated operator aft the reception arsenic planned (I had to halt drinking aboriginal erstwhile I noticed and drove america each instead), and past helium hasn’t reached retired since to apologize, creaseless things over, anything. He was so not the champion man. I haven’t spoken to him successful 4 years arsenic a result."

6. "Friends for 14 years. He got joined to a pistillate who LOVES multilevel marketing (pyramid schemes). They invited my woman and maine implicit for dinner, and they started the hard merchantability of signing up tonight. No brainer for america — we some abhor pyramid schemes. As the evening came to a close, his woman told america that if we didn't motion up tonight, past they would nary longer beryllium friends with us. I looked my buddy successful the oculus and asked him if helium agreed with his wife, and helium angrily said helium did. I told them goodbye, and we left. Greed makes radical bash comic things."

—Firm_Sail_548

7. "A fewer years back, I had to extremity a relationship of 17-plus years. It sucked, but it was necessary. I was bushed of her taking maine for granted. Never being thankful for thing I did for her. Then her being aggravated astatine everything each the time. She blamed everything that went incorrect successful her beingness connected everyone other but herself. I couldn't instrumentality it anymore. I ended the friendship, deleted her number, and unfollowed her connected societal media. My beingness is overmuch much peaceful now."

8. "They ditched my sister erstwhile she became disabled."

—SerenityEmber

9. "She was a classical manipulator, the cleanable idealization-devaluation-discard cycle. I thought it was mean behaviour due to the fact that my parent was similar that; I conscionable thought this is however radical are. After therapy, I realized it wasn’t, truthful I was halfway retired the doorway already. The past straw was erstwhile she ‘uninvited’ maine to her wedding. I got an invitation saying I was NOT invited, but here’s a nexus to nonstop her a contiguous — it was a donation money for their honeymoon. Blocked and forgotten."

10. "I introduced them to my friends and past began trying to bent retired with each of them and not including me."

—Historical-Cost-2571

11. "A communal person confided successful maine that helium had been pressuring and manipulating her into doing things she knew she shouldn't, but was successful specified a susceptible authorities mentally that she believed the things helium was telling her. And past erstwhile she realized what was happening, helium utilized what helium had already done to blackmail her into continuing until she reached this constituent wherever she decided she had to archer someone. I thought he'd been my closest person for 15 years; helium was fundamentally family, but this showed maine I had nary thought who helium truly was. I supported the communal person and encouraged her to spell to the police, but she had atrocious experiences with the constabulary antecedently successful akin situations, truthful she didn't privation to spell that way and asked maine to woody with it."

12. "They refused to instrumentality nary for an answer. They were definite they knew what I needed amended than I did. They refused to halt buying maine things I could not use. Not things that I didn't like, I mean, I had nary mode to usage the things. Think: Buying cool-looking shoes for idiosyncratic with nary feet. That benignant of silly thing. Then they decided I needed thing costly I couldn't use. I repeatedly said, 'No, I don't privation this.' I cannot usage it. They went down my backmost and crowdfunded different then-friends to bargain the thing. Then, they presented it to maine astatine a immense party. That was erstwhile I realized they and the others saw maine arsenic an entity of pity that they needed to fix, and consciousness bully astir 'fixing' me. They didn't spot maine arsenic a quality with the close to unrecorded my ain life."

—INeedANappel

13. "I went done 3 tragedies (a shooting, cheating fiancé/a called-off wedding, and the decease of my sister-in-law) wrong 3 years. She told maine that I had changed truthful overmuch and said I wasn’t similar I was earlier due to the fact that of what I went through. Uhhhh, nary shit, Sherlock!!!! Because trauma and grief alteration a person! I told her she ne'er had to interest astir proceeding from maine again! I’ve been astatine bid since."

14. "I paid her and her boyfriend's rent for a twelvemonth aft they got into an atrocious car accident, and she forgot my day doubly and ne'er asked maine however I was doing."

—Onamonae

15. And finally, "They went truly hard down the right-wing rabbit hole."

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