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If you’ve been connected societal media astatine each lately, you might’ve travel crossed — oregon seen radical talking astir — “The Danish Deception.”
If you’re not successful the loop, a pistillate named Onyeka Ehie — who appeared connected Colton Underwood’s play of The Bachelor — precocious made a 28-part TikTok series charting her past narration with an ex, whom she branded a “professional, international, transgression con artist,” arsenic good arsenic a “psychopath” and a “narcissist.”
As idiosyncratic who was instantly hooked by Reesa Teesa’s viral “Who TF Did I Marry” videos past year, I unsurprisingly sat done each 28 parts of Onyeka’s communicative — and BOY, was it a chaotic ride. So, naturally, here’s a implicit breakdown of what allegedly went down betwixt Onyeka and her ex.
To begin, Onyeka — who is simply a realtor and accounting advisor based successful Dallas — meets her ex portion connected abrogation successful Croatia successful June 2022. The brace instantly deed it off, and support flirting successful the DMs earlier helium flies her retired to conscionable him successful the southbound of France for a lavish abrogation a mates of months later.
“This antheral looks similar he’s walking consecutive retired of a Calvin Klein ad. 6’3”, blond hair, bluish eyes, chiselled skin, truthful tan, muscles everywhere. I was decidedly taken aback,” she said arsenic she recalled archetypal laying eyes connected her ex.
Sidenote: Onyeka doesn’t really name-drop her ex astatine each successful the series, but she was publicly successful a relationship with Martin Fredsgaard Andersen for years, and has antecedently recounted alleged details of their romance that straight lucifer up with those shared successful her “Danish Deception” videos.
Onyeka’s ex splashes his currency connected this trip, booking her a luxury, 5-star edifice and encouraging her to prime retired “whatever” she wants connected a buying spree successful Cannes. As they’re getting to cognize each other, helium tells her an array of absorbing “facts” astir himself, including that he’s from a royal bloodline, has competed astatine the Olympics, and owns aggregate properties successful Denmark, wherever helium is from.
They autumn for each different hard and fast, with Onyeka telling her ex that she loves him connected this travel — contempt lone really knowing each different successful idiosyncratic for a mates of weeks. He doesn’t instantly accidental it back, though helium aboriginal says it erstwhile she has a aesculapian exigency and is astir to beryllium rushed to the hospital.
In portion 5, Onyeka reveals that her ex faces his archetypal (spoiler alert, of many) fiscal conflict erstwhile 1 of his flat complexes needs $50,000 worthy of repairs. Despite being shocked astatine the amount, Onyeka offers to assistance him out, clarifying that she was successful a large fiscal presumption astatine the clip and felt similar they were successful a coagulated “partnership.” He seemingly refuses her connection astatine first, though yet accepts a $6,000 indebtedness from her.
The brace support doing agelong distance, with the ex flying to Dallas present and determination to spot her. They aboriginal spell to Paris unneurotic — and helium tells her that he’s having occupation transferring wealth from his concern to his idiosyncratic account, truthful she covers the trip.
Onyeka’s ex yet decides to determination from Denmark to Dallas to beryllium with her, and amid the process of him officially moving over, they softly necktie the knot successful a tiny courthouse ceremony. Yep, that’s right, they get married!
As you might’ve guessed, Onyeka repeatedly loans her ex wealth passim the people of their marriage. At 1 point, helium asks her for $5,000, claiming that his flat analyzable had different emergency. He aboriginal claims helium owes implicit $300,000 successful taxes and straight asks Onyeka for $15,000. On apical of what helium STILL owes her!
At this point, Onyeka calls him retired for “emotional manipulation,” portion acknowledging that she’s starting to consciousness wary astir sending him money. “Everything astir this felt truthful incorrect successful my soul, but I did it anyway,” she said.
But this didn’t halt Onyeka from loaning her ex an further $3,000 erstwhile a person supposedly got successful interaction with him and shared his fiscal struggles. That’s $18,000 sent successful a period alone, bringing the expansive full up to $29,000.
Some clip passes, and Onyeka’s ex aboriginal needs different load of currency to enactment into escrow erstwhile helium seemingly sells his flat analyzable to a affluent buyer. She loans him different $3,000.
In spite of the ongoing loans, Onyeka and her ex aboriginal spell connected yet different travel together, astir of which was paid for by her connected her recognition cards. Not lone that, but she claims that helium convinces her to discontinue her six-figure accounting job. “I trusted him to beryllium my provider, and that was stupid,” she said.
The ex aboriginal says that his assets person been frozen by the Danish taxation authorities. Onyeka admits that she’s decidedly wary of “all the reddish flags” by this point, but feels there’s thing she tin bash but “trust him.”
So now, Onyeka is “fully financially supporting” herself and her ex, adjacent paying for him to sojourn her successful Dallas portion his funds are frozen. “I cared astir the money, but I loved him much than that,” she said, adding, “The wealth was astir secondary to the emotion that we shared.”
The mates is aboriginal “alleviated of a small spot of fiscal stress” erstwhile Onyeka’s ex’s idiosyncratic relationship is reopened pursuing an probe and hearing. She says helium “immediately” sends her astir $9,000, though claims that the remaining funds are successful his concern account, which is inactive nether probe — and present frozen for 18 to 24 months.
Fast guardant to Christmas, which the mates spent with Onyeka’s ex’s family, and a adjacent person reveals to Onyeka that her ex has a gambling addiction. When confronted by Onyeka, helium insists that helium overcame the addiction a decennary prior, and claims that he’s ne'er gambled distant her money.
In spite of everything, the mates spell connected ANOTHER travel to Budapest, which Onyeka says she paid for entirely.
In the adjacent fewer videos, Onyeka recalls discovering from a person that her ex owes the friend’s hubby $200,000 for an alleged cryptocurrency deal. She besides recalls learning that her ex has allegedly been gambling again — and she aboriginal details catching him connected a gambling website.
The friends successful question suggest hiring a backstage researcher to stitchery much accusation astir Onyeka’s ex. And lo and behold, they observe that helium a) ne'er went to the Olympics, and b) lied astir the location helium was surviving successful in Denmark erstwhile the mates archetypal met.
Regardless of everything, Onyeka remains determined to marque things work, encouraging her ex to be Gamblers Anonymous meetings and mounting up a program to repay her friends what they were owed.
Things look good for a fewer months, until Onyeka discovers that her ex is allegedly inactive gambling — and has conscionable $0.34 successful his slope account.
The rhythm continues, and things lone escalate AGAIN erstwhile Onyeka learns that her ex owes her MOM $10,000 and allegedly keeps lying astir sending the money. They get into a immense combat implicit it, resulting successful the ex storming retired and ending the relationship.
Yes, HE was the 1 to initiate the divorce!
But it gets worse. As Onyeka cries to her sisters astir the split, she finds retired helium besides borrowed wealth from her youngest sister TWICE — and portion helium paid her backmost once, helium inactive owed her $3,000.
And then, Onyeka discovers that it’s not conscionable her sister who is owed wealth by her ex. She lists aggregate friends, cousins, and coworkers who lent her ex wealth for assorted reasons (he allegedly claimed to beryllium buying cars, investing successful land, astonishing Onyeka with gifts, and each sorts of different things successful a bid to get wealth from her loved ones).
It’s astatine this constituent successful the communicative that Onyeka has afloat turned connected her ex. She calls his family, and finds retired that helium a) lied astir their royal title, and b) was antecedently successful attraction for his gambling addiction.
She discovers that helium antecedently owed “dangerous people” wealth and fled to China…only to past con radical successful China.
She besides learns that helium has ne'er owned immoderate properties successful Denmark, and took wealth from not conscionable his siblings and parents, but their friends, including a workfellow of his dad’s, whom helium met conscionable once.
As if things couldn’t get worse, Onyeka discovers that her ex really broke up with his ex-girlfriend months into their narration — truthful helium was seeing the 2 of them astatine the aforesaid time. He was allegedly surviving with his ex for 4 months aft helium and Onyeka started dating!
(She discovered this by getting successful interaction with his ex, who had antecedently watched her Instagram stories).
THEN, Onyeka finds retired that her ex took wealth from her PARENTS!
As good arsenic $30,000 from idiosyncratic she describes arsenic a "mentor figure" who'd had implicit 10 concern meetings with the ex earlier loaning him money* for an evident onshore investment! To punctuation 1 of the wildest lines of the story: When Onyeka asks this “mentor” wherefore helium hadn’t mentioned immoderate of this to her, helium allegedly replied, “Onyeka, you’re Nigerian, that’s the scamming superior of the world. I didn’t cognize if you were successful connected it.”
*The mentor besides filed a suit against the ex, BTW.
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