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As astir of america realize, determination are attitudes, ideas, and habits that simply SCREAM misogyny...however, determination are galore "normal" behaviors that are conscionable arsenic misogynistic and toxic arsenic those we openly admit and discuss...
1. "I americium the superior income earner successful my household, and did the bulk of the enactment to bargain our location — filled retired owe applications, figured retired homeowners' insurance, recovered the realtor, served arsenic the constituent of interaction for the builder, completed each of the paperwork paperwork, work each of the warranty stuff, etc."
2. "My partner’s brag won’t fto him enactment from location with our babe due to the fact that 'men can’t multitask.'"
"Implicitly debased expectations of men adjacent higher expectations of women, which means we person to bash more."
3. "That I'm expected to determination retired of the mode erstwhile walking towards a antheral connected the street. COVID was the archetypal clip I wasn't ducking and diving astir the pavement."
"I really had a infinitesimal a fewer weeks agone that wasn’t a immense deal, but it sticks out: A antheral was walking towards me, and I consciously made the determination to support walking and either slam into him oregon marque him move. He moved astatine the past 2nd and really looked surprised, not annoyed successful a mean way, but surprised. It was glorious."
4. "My hubby and I are large shot fans, particularly of our section insignificant league team, and I'm overmuch much progressive than helium is. I mostly cognize much astir the crippled and our team's players than helium does."
5. "I'd accidental 1 of the much 'unnoticed' examples of misogyny is each of the 'I'm conscionable a girl' jokes and discourse, which, yes, 98% of the time, is self-aware, but a tiny portion of it reinforces pistillate helplessness."
6. "Men are genuinely lone affable towards maine if they privation to person enactment with me. They tin beryllium bully and benignant without wanting sex, but erstwhile they are friendly, I person learned it comes with expectations — adjacent men successful relationships."
"I tin archer similar a bloodhound which men would cheat connected their partners."
7. "My household doc not taking maine earnestly is 1 of my biggest examples: I was struggling with terrible pain, fatigue, anxiety, and insomnia. I was truthful hopeless that I asked him if I could get a medicine for sleeping medication."
8. "When I was joining a church, 1 of the elders asked maine immoderate wide questions for their records."
"When helium asked maine my husband's name, I replied that my hubby wasn't joining the church. He said they conscionable needed an exigency contact, truthful I provided my husband's sanction and telephone number.
A week later, I received my tithing envelopes and the caller religion directory. Both of them listed 'Mrs. Joe Smith.' My sanction was obscurity to beryllium found."
9. "I get truthful huffy erstwhile I’m fixed car repair quotes. At my past appointment, the spot suggested a attraction work that was $300+. I decided to telephone astir to different spot (another dealership, a municipality over) and get a punctuation for it. It was fractional the cost. It feels incredibly disrespectful that radical effort to instrumentality vantage of america similar this."
10. "This 1 truly ticked maine off: My dada was getting my grandparents’ location acceptable to merchantability aft their deaths, truthful helium chose a section spot manager (who had nary concern acting arsenic a realtor). I told my dada that the location needed to beryllium painted, but helium told maine to hold and spot what the spot manager thought."
11. "When men are amazed that I’m funny."
"It ever surprises maine erstwhile men explicate to women wherefore what they said was funny, arsenic if we accidentally made a joke."
12. "When I worked a firm job, I was fixed a sanction badge that said 'assistant' for a conference. I was a merchandise manager."
"I was besides asked galore times if I was my boss’s adjunct erstwhile I managed my ain portfolio of projects worthy $500,000,000 a year."
13. "I broke my car cardinal portion connected a play travel with my fellow and didn't person a spare, truthful we had to locomotion to a adjacent store with the 2 halves of my cardinal to spot if they could transcript it. I explained it was my car, and what happened, the feline past asked my fellow tons of questions astir the make, exemplary year, etc. of the car, each of which I answered arsenic it was MY car."
14. "I'm transgender (male-to-female), and I’ve had a beforehand enactment spot to unrealized misogyny, including from coworkers I’ve known for much than a decade. The different day, 1 feline I’ve known since 2017 tried to explicate however units of measurement work. I'm the Senior Director of Master Data. He ne'er tried doing that before."
15. "I was an technologist astatine a tech institution that made applicants springiness a tech speech to the engineers arsenic the last signifier of the hiring process. When I walked into the room, carrying my laptop, dressed successful shorts and a t-shirt similar each different engineer, the applicant looked astatine me, surprised, and said, 'I thought the assemblage was expected to beryllium technical.'"
"It was truthful chaotic I didn’t adjacent [understand] what had happened; my teammates got offended connected my behalf and I had nary thought why. He didn’t get the job."
16. "When I was younger and lived with my parents, my dada would perpetually speech implicit maine and demean my opinions and feelings. Over time, I stopped trying to marque my opinions known. I wasn't conscious of it, however, until I moved distant and joined a antheral who is simply a respectful conversationalist, and I stopped silencing myself."
17. "Recently, I've been reasoning astir the term: 'working mom.' Forget the information that each moms, successful fact, are moving due to the fact that taking attraction of a kid is simply a immense task, not adjacent considering household chores. How travel I've ne'er heard of a 'working dad?' Does being a dada mean little enactment than being a mom?"
"The lone word that comes to caput indicating a antheral taking connected the majority/all of the childcare is 'single dad' oregon 'present father.'
On the flip side, a 'present mother' is conscionable a mother. Do dads successful relationships not usually attraction for their children?"
18. "In my 20s, I did familial sequencing for a prestigious crab probe halfway successful London. When I was going for luncheon 1 day, the antheral serving maine spotted my ID badge and asked wherever I worked (for information reasons, our badges had nary identifying instauration logos/ gathering names, etc)."
"When I told him, helium asked if I was the receptionist. When I told him what my existent occupation was, helium replied with 'You don't look similar a scientist.' Ten years later, I tin inactive retrieve however furious that enactment made maine feel.
(Not that it matters, but the actual receptionist astatine that clip was a man.)"
19. "My household was looking to bargain a minivan. I did each the probe and recovered the van. So my husband, my 2 youngest, and I caput to the dealership. While I americium moving retired the woody with the concern guy, my hubby was strolling astir the batch with the kids to support them entertained..."
Did immoderate of these stories astonishment you? Women, what are immoderate "unnoticed" ways misogyny has crept into your lives? Let america cognize successful the comments oregon reply anonymously utilizing the signifier below!
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