"You Can Do Everything Right And Still Fail": Older People Are Revealing The Gut-Wrenching Truths They've Learned With Age

1. "You volition person to marque precise applicable (sometimes precise cold) decisions astir what you privation from beingness and what you're consenting to springiness up. And if you don't marque them, past beingness volition marque them for you."

—Anonymous

2. "Even your imagination occupation sucks sometimes. Even the emotion of your beingness gets connected your nerves sometimes. There is obscurity you 'should beryllium by now.' All beingness paths are antithetic and arsenic valid. Happiness is simply a practice, it isn't thing you execute and past you're good."

—u/maybenut

3. "Don't walk much wealth conscionable due to the fact that you are starting to gain more. Lifestyle ostentation creeping successful is simply a bitch."

—u/Neutrum

4. "You larn that the friendships you took for granted arsenic a kid really autumn distant beauteous rapidly if you neglect them, and that adjacent if you don't, clip has a wont of changing people. Your champion person from schoolhouse is antithetic since they got married, and that feline you partied with successful assemblage ne'er truly got the bent of stopping drugs..."

—u/ChubbyWordsmith

5. "Life is finite. As a kid, beingness is conscionable this happening that goes connected forever. Consequences don't substance arsenic overmuch due to the fact that the aboriginal is unfathomably acold away. It's a bully clip for making atrocious decisions, but arsenic you advancement done your life, you commencement realizing that the aboriginal is coming up fast, and however it looks really does beryllium connected what you bash now."

—u/ChubbyWordsmith

7. "You are not invincible. Stop driving similar an idiot and enactment retired of unnecessary carnal altercations."

—u/Neutrum

8. "You larn that relationships aren't similar successful the movies. They instrumentality enactment and thought, and everyone is flawed and damaged...and they'll astir apt footwear you successful the gut astatine slightest a twelve oregon truthful times."

—u/ChubbyWordsmith

9. "Go to the fucking dentist. You can't hold for mommy to marque an assignment for you and clasp your manus the full way... get your ass successful determination earlier it's excessively late. Teeth don't heal and erstwhile you've fucked them up, you've fucked them up."

—u/MyNameIsSkittles

10. "The radical you emotion are going to die. I don't privation anyone to larn this lesson, ever, but it provides immoderate beauteous superior position erstwhile it inevitably happens."

—u/cosmolegato

11. "It's important to woody with trauma aboriginal connected successful life, oregon it volition instrumentality a toll connected you."

—u/lalalolamaserola

12. "Minimize your shit. Owning things won't marque you happy. Plus, sometimes you shouldn't clasp onto objects conscionable for the involvement of owning them. This tin besides beryllium applied to people. Hindsight truly is simply a bitch. Not each household is humor relations. If lone 1 idiosyncratic is making each the effort successful a friendship, it's astir apt not arsenic bully a relationship arsenic you thought it was. And, astir important lesson: It takes an embarrassingly agelong clip for eyebrows to turn back."

—u/LadyEmry

13. "Sometimes your champion isn't bully enough. Sometimes you enactment everything you've got into thing and inactive don't get what you wanted."

—u/Fthat_ManaBar

"You tin bash everything close and inactive fail."

—u/Spire-hawk

14. "Life is astir lessons. Here are a fewer you'll learn: The 'Now I cognize wherefore unprotected enactment is risky' lesson. The 'Work your ass disconnected for that precocious qualification past commencement astatine the bottommost of the vocation ladder and beryllium grateful' lesson. The 'I shouldn't person gotten a indebtedness for thing I couldn't afford' lesson. The 'I misplaced my spot successful idiosyncratic and got fucked over' lesson. The 'Always person a program to get home' lesson. The 'Drunk tattoos aren't ideal' lesson. The 'You tin devour immoderate crap you want' lesson."

—Anonymous

15. "Do not prevarication to your important other. Have hard conversations and spot them capable to beryllium capable to person them with you. Give them the accidental and don’t beryllium afraid/avoid doing it successful fearfulness of rejection oregon judgment. I learned that 1 the hard way, unfortunately."

—u/Ginoblee

16. "Most radical are fundamentally decent, but don't trust connected it. Really effort to spot radical for the individuals that they are and not who you would privation them to beryllium oregon fearfulness them to be. If your important different says they emotion you portion treating you arsenic worthless, they are lying. Would you judge specified behaviour from a stranger? Would they? Honesty is not arsenic valued, peculiarly successful the workplace, arsenic you whitethorn beryllium led to believe, but don't springiness up connected it. The radical who worth your integrity are priceless, and you won't cognize who they are without it."

—u/Selenay1

17. "If you person a gut feeling astir a peculiar idiosyncratic oregon situation, DO NOT combat it. Follow your instincts."

—u/Equivalent-Roll-3321

18. "Some radical who conscionable fucking seashore done beingness and person everything handed to them. Life is perfectly fucking unfair, and the sooner you halt comparing yourself to radical who had a 50,000 mile headstart from birth, the sooner you tin ACTUALLY commencement to live."

—u/Novirtue

19. "Knowing erstwhile to accidental 'no' and doing that is much important than saying 'yes.'

—u/wradam

20. "If your leader is doing thing amerciable oregon unethical and you determine to face them astir it, for fucks sake, bash it successful a mode that each connection volition permission a insubstantial trail."

—Anonymous

21. "Do worldly that makes you blessed alternatively of doing worldly that makes you look cool."

—u/Neutrum

22. "You larn that being steadfast isn't an autopilot happening anymore. That if you devour shitty nutrient and beryllium connected your sofa excessively much, crap volition commencement to wounded and you'll consciousness much bushed and grouchy. There's a akin acquisition with booze and drugs."

—u/ChubbyWordsmith

23. "Very fewer radical really travel done connected what they accidental they'll do. It tin beryllium for immoderate fig of reasons, from 'I don't privation to wounded their feelings' to 'I privation to look bully successful beforehand of others' oregon 'I privation to delight everyone' — and that's conscionable for starters. When you find radical who DO, cherish them. It's wherefore I ever station 'Look astatine the person's patterns of actions, not their words, to spot their existent feelings.'"

—u/bmyst70

25. "Take attraction of your intelligence wellness aboriginal connected truthful you tin beryllium steadfast and conscionable different steadfast people. You deliberation you've had your just stock of beingness experiences, but they're inactive coming, and immoderate deed you unexpectedly 'cause you're not wherever you request to beryllium mentally successful life. Don't accidental 'that'll ne'er hap to me' due to the fact that atrocious radical bash exist, and they don't discriminate."

—u/overthinking_7

26. "Pride does perfectly nothing. If you don't accidental bully greeting to your brag successful the greeting due to the fact that you deliberation your brag is simply a dick, you're not doing yourself immoderate favors."

—u/thisesmeaningless

27. "You tin emotion idiosyncratic and inactive cognize they're not close for you."

—u/nomadicsailor81

28. "Don't bash concern with family. Love your children much than you hatred your ex."

—u/emmett_kelly

29. And finally: "You'll judge that you're halfway done your beingness astatine immoderate point, and that'll freak you retired a bit, but it's a bully thing."

—u/ChubbyWordsmith

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