Women Are Revealing The "Last Straws" That Made Them End Marriages Or Relationships, And I Am Yelling, "DUMP HIM!" Progressively Louder At My Screen

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A spot ago, I asked women successful the BuzzFeed Community to stock the "final straw" moments they realized their matrimony oregon narration was over. Dating is simply a hellscape successful the twelvemonth 2025, and these stories look lone to validate that sentiment, TBH. While their responses made maine privation to stitchery my friends and ovum these men's houses (yes, adjacent successful this economy...it's that serious), I'm truthful endlessly arrogant of these women for doing what was champion for them and leaving these losers behind. So without further ado, delight articulation maine (in this rage and) successful celebrating these strong-ass ladies:

1. "We had been joined for 6 years erstwhile we had our daughter. The time aft she was born, helium came to the hospital, sat by my furniture for a while, past looked astatine maine and asked what was incorrect with my stomach. I said nothing, and helium proceeded to archer maine however SICK I made him due to the fact that my tummy was inactive big. A twelvemonth aboriginal I showed him however sick I could marque him...I near him and ne'er looked back."

2. "I was applying for a occupation astatine a assemblage assemblage adjacent my hometown, astir 2 hours from the metropolis I was surviving in. My fellow astatine the clip said, 'I conscionable don't recognize wherefore you're bothering, they're not going to prosecute you.' I had 2 Master's degrees and a full-time job, and this grown antheral had his parents paying the rent connected his flat since helium couldn't enactment an existent occupation portion trying to get his concern disconnected the ground. In the six months that we dated, I saw him enactment possibly 3 days. The remainder of the time, helium played video games."

"The information that helium had truthful small respect for my acquisition oregon endowment was the extremity for me. Oh, and I didn't get that job...I got 1 astatine the bigger, much prestigious University successful town. Now I'm a predominant Guest Artist astatine the assemblage assemblage arsenic my broadside hustle."

—chelseajack

3. "My hubby of implicit 10 years told maine that helium recovered dating-type activities (like going retired to dinner, movies, etc.) boring unless determination was a possiblity of enactment afterward. I felt a dagger of crystal sprout down my spine, and erstwhile it deed the bottom, my feelings for him were dead."

—Anonymous

4. "My ex came to sojourn maine erstwhile I was studying overseas for a semester successful Europe. The nighttime helium arrived, helium confessed to maine successful my dorm country aft traveling thousands of miles to spot maine that his pistillate relative had ever been jealous of our narration and that she had 'convinced him' to movie her masturbating a fewer weeks ago. Apparently, she was considering trying retired pornography and wanted to 'see' however she looked connected camera, truthful she asked him to movie her, and helium obliged. He besides confessed to being attracted to her and told maine they had kissed years prior."

"Needless to say, we mislaid the spark successful our enactment beingness beauteous rapidly aft that, and I was nary longer attracted to him. We broke up a fewer months period aboriginal aft being unneurotic for astir 5 years. He and I inactive talk, but the romance was ne'er the same. His relative became an exotic dancer and joined a affluent aged man, presumably for his money. No 1 has heard from her since."

—Anonymous

5. "My hubby had ever been self-centered, but I tolerated it. Now, I person nary thought why. One day, I went successful for my yearly mammogram. The doctor's bureau called soon aft and stated I needed to get successful close away; they had recovered a lump and I needed to person a biopsy. The pursuing day, the doctor's bureau called again and told maine I had signifier 2 bosom cancer. I needed chemo and radiation. I called my hubby and told him I had thing important to speech to him astir erstwhile I got home. When I was pursuing him upstairs aboriginal that nighttime to speech alone, tears began to travel down my face. He turned to maine and asked what was wrong. I regained my spot and told him. He shrugged his shoulders, looked astatine me, and said, 'Well if you die, past who is going to instrumentality attraction of me?'"

"I felt similar helium was disquieted astir himself and not me. After treatment, I left, and I person been cancer-free ever since."

—Anonymous

6. "My past straw was learning that aft 4 years of marriage, my hubby had fixed maine an STD. He denied that helium had cheated connected me, and alternatively insisted that I indispensable person cheated on him and gotten it! I realized past each of the lies, neglect, and verbal maltreatment from him was however the remainder of the matrimony was going to be, truthful I near him."

—Anonymous

7. "My (now ex) and I were goofing astir — telling jokes, tickling each other, saying silly things. He said that my jokes were anserine (not successful a mean way; helium was saying they were silly successful a loving, goofy way) and was laughing. In effect to immoderate silly remark helium had made, we were some laughing, and I jokingly said, 'You’re truthful stupid!' successful the aforesaid silly mode he'd said to me. He instantly pushed maine distant from him, looked maine dormant successful the eyes, and said, 'You’re nothing. I went to a amended schoolhouse than you, got a amended grade than you, person a amended occupation than you. Everything I bash is better. You’re nothing.'"

"I cried, showered disconnected my tears, and left. If that’s however you presumption me, past wherefore beryllium successful a narration with me?

I knew helium was insecure arsenic I was successful the process of getting my PhD successful behavioral neuroscience."

—kathkathkath

8. "We had been joined astir 20 years. I got successful a car mishap and a fewer days later, I was lying connected the couch, crying. My cervix wounded truthful overmuch and I couldn't assistance my head. I asked him to delight hitch my neck, and helium said no. When I asked him wherefore helium wouldn't, helium said helium didn't consciousness similar it. That was it. A fewer years later, erstwhile we were divorced, I told him this was the breaking constituent that made maine cognize I wanted a divorce. He looked astatine maine with a humbled face, but I had to fto him cognize helium was the crushed we were divorced."

—Anonymous

9. "The infinitesimal I was done was erstwhile this moron of a antheral screamed, 'You are a woman! Know your place!' during a ridiculous argument. I conscionable felt it immediately, and erstwhile those words came retired of his mouth, it was over. I truly liked that man, but convey God helium said it erstwhile helium did, arsenic we were looking astatine apartments unneurotic astatine the time."

—elisaday

10. "I had a long-time fellow for astir 8 years who I started going retired with erstwhile I was 15. I thought everything was large with him until my ma mentioned that helium lone showed up connected my wage time oregon erstwhile helium wanted something. So, to trial this, I decided not to interaction him archetypal and spot what helium would accidental and however agelong it would instrumentality for him to scope retired first. He called maine astir a week and a fractional later. He didn't say, 'How are you?' oregon anything; helium consecutive up asked maine what my ma was doing due to the fact that helium wanted a assistance to a evident occupation interrogation that was a 15-minute locomotion from wherever helium was staying."

"I broke up connected the telephone call, blocked him connected everything, and told him not to interaction maine again, arsenic I was done. He had the nervus to accidental I was melodramatic and selfish! Turns retired helium was staying astatine different girl's location and having each sorts of parties. He spent each his wealth connected drugs, and that's wherefore helium had nary wealth and lone called maine connected my payday to get escaped nutrient oregon money his parties."

—Anonymous

11. "I ended up successful the infirmary 2 hours distant for an exigency country aft a failed country a fewer days prior. My hubby didn't similar driving successful ample cities, truthful I was brought determination from a section ER via ambulance. I was alone, heavy medicated, and frightened I was going to die. My friends had to signifier a thrust location for maine the adjacent day. My hubby was making a video update helium posted connected Facebook (without my cognition oregon permission), and my person was messaging him, trying to get him to telephone the infirmary and fto them cognize she was approved to prime maine up. I ne'er watched the video, but a fewer days aft I got home, my hubby complained astir notification sounds going disconnected "non-stop" successful the opening of his video due to the fact that my person was desperately trying to get successful interaction with him."

"He was annoyed...that my person was trying to marque definite I was OK and had a mode location from the hospital...where I'd conscionable had exigency encephalon surgery. I thought I would suggest counseling aft I was amended until that moment. Then, I knew helium would ne'er beryllium determination erstwhile I needed him the most."

—Anonymous

12. "My past straw was erstwhile my hubby of 10 years called maine to prime him up from the barroom 8 days post-emergency C-section. I was inactive suffering the effects of eclampsia. Our girl was a preemie weighing conscionable nether 4 pounds, and helium wanted maine to bundle her up and thrust retired into the snowfall to prime him up astatine 2:00 successful the morning."

"When I didn’t and helium had to locomotion home, helium came successful and physically pulled maine retired of furniture and slammed maine into the partition face-first. He was arrested, I filed a protective order, and helium hasn’t stepped done my doorway successful 12 years. He inactive stalks me, harasses me, and confronts maine successful public, but helium has nary power. He has 40% custody of our daughter, but they don’t get along, truthful helium ne'er takes her."

—Anonymous

13. "My ex and I were unneurotic for implicit 3 years. During this time, helium graduated with his Bachelor's grade and started moving arsenic a teacher, which was his chosen vocation path. I was moving towards my MBA and besides experienced important vocation growth, which had maine traveling a batch for work. We'd already had galore conversations astir the information that my chosen vocation way and his were drastically different, particularly successful presumption of wage potential, but that it didn't substance to maine arsenic agelong arsenic we were some committed to the narration and to contributing arsenic financially percentage-wise. He said helium agreed but didn't privation to speech astir it due to the fact that it made him uncomfortable."

"During a company-wide league successful Vegas, I was fixed announcement of a large promotion and was precise excited to observe erstwhile I got home. My friends and I went retired unneurotic to celebrate, and my ex showed up, pulled maine aside, and said, 'I can't observe you due to the fact that your promotion makes maine consciousness similar a failure.' He past said that it made him consciousness similar little of a antheral due to the fact that my wage would beryllium astir treble his. He asked maine to not instrumentality the promotion and to enactment successful my existent role. I told him perfectly not, and I asked him to leave.

The adjacent day, helium came to my location and told maine helium was huffy astatine maine for asking him to leave. I had already packed up his worldly and told him that I needed a supportive spouse who would observe my occurrence with maine and not effort to bring maine down due to the fact that of his ain insecurities. I ended things close determination and started successful my caller presumption a fewer days later. Through that position, I met my present husband, who is the astir supportive spouse I could person ever dreamed of. Morale of the story: don't shrink yourself to marque your spouse consciousness big."

—Anonymous

14. "My past straw was not the changeless cheating and lies that I recovered retired about, but the soundless attraction helium loved to bash arsenic punishment, particularly erstwhile I didn’t bash thing wrong. On this peculiar day, him and I were lying down watching TV, and helium mentioned that helium had a hairsbreadth appointment. His daughter, who was 6, chimed successful and said, 'Is that the aforesaid barbershop we went to earlier we went to Sarah's (his mistress's) house?' Of course, helium full-on denied it. When helium saw my vigor shift, helium got truly antiaircraft and asked if I truly believed his 6-year-old girl implicit him."

"I countered and said, 'Why would your OWN 6-year-old girl prevarication astir that?' At that point, I simply wanted clarification because, honestly, I was already halfway done with the relationship. Instead of speaking to maine astir it, helium gave maine the acold shoulder. It lasted for 2 weeks. After that, I was genuinely done."

—Anonymous

15. "The past straw was aft 4 years. I'd moved astir 3 hours away, and a person pointed retired that I drove 3 and a fractional hours each play to sojourn him, and he'd ne'er made the effort to sojourn maine due to the fact that helium 'was acrophobic his car would get deed due to the fact that it's the city.' He ne'er visited, not erstwhile successful the 2 years we were successful a agelong region relationship. Turns out, helium was cheating during the week and connected the weekends I couldn't spell down. Waste of 4 years of my life. I beryllium my person a batch for pointing retired his behavior."

—Anonymous

16. "It sounds truthful trivial, but the past straw for maine was erstwhile we were eating luncheon retired together. We decided to divided 2 entrees that sounded bully to some of america — a hamburger and a shrimp po’boy. He didn’t bid his hamburger without onions oregon adjacent with them connected the side. I hatred onions, and I hatred having to prime them disconnected due to the fact that the spirit remains connected the food. I had the abrupt realization that helium simply didn’t attraction astir maine oregon what I wanted. I cognize helium didn’t hide — helium admitted that erstwhile I asked. He conscionable didn’t deliberation it was a large deal. It was 6+ years of everything that mattered to me, tiny oregon not, being 'no large deal.'"

17. "I was successful a semipermanent matrimony and realized that I ne'er meant thing to my husband. I yet confronted him that I had impervious of his affairs. He looked astatine maine and said, 'Yes, I behaved badly, but it is truly your responsibility due to the fact that you’re the lone 1 I prevarication to.' I wasn’t buying into immoderate of this. He got truthful aggravated that helium packed his bags and left. The champion acquisition helium ever gave me. He really thought that I was going to fto him travel back. NOPE!"

—Anonymous

18. "During supper 1 night, my present ex-husband utilized the n-word successful beforehand of our children and my champion friend. I stayed with him done his infidelities, aggregate occupation losses, and an arrest, but that 1 connection was the catalyst. It was similar a curtain came down connected the marriage. I took the kids and moved retired a mates of weeks later."

—heididover2

19. "The past straw for maine was erstwhile I chopped my hairsbreadth from my hips to conscionable supra my shoulders. It was determination beardown of 2 feet of hair, and my hubby didn’t announcement until I pointed it retired a week later. That’s erstwhile I made my exit strategy. I near my ringing connected the antagonistic and my worldly was gone a week later. He didn’t adjacent effort to combat it. He simply didn’t attraction anymore."

20. "I had been dating my ex for 6 years, and we lived unneurotic for 5. There were truthful galore antithetic instances of disrespect and neglect, from telling maine 10 minutes earlier helium was leaving to spell to a antithetic authorities for the play (this happened aggregate times, and we had shared responsibilities), to telling me, 'Shut the fuck up, I wasn't talking to you' successful beforehand of a radical of friends. The past straw was erstwhile helium moved his person into the basement of the location we shared without asking oregon adjacent telling me. It was during the pandemic, truthful I was moving from home, and 1 time portion I was moving astatine my computer, his person conscionable started bringing successful boxes down into the basement."

"I asked my ex wherefore helium didn't consult maine earlier making this decision, and helium said, 'Because I knew you would accidental no.' So helium went up and did it anyway, adjacent though helium already knew it was thing that would marque maine unhappy. I broke up with him not agelong after. We inactive had a period oregon truthful near connected our lease, truthful we continued to unrecorded successful the aforesaid location unneurotic for a abbreviated magnitude of clip (with his person surviving successful the basement). Before I officially moved out, helium invited yet different person to travel unrecorded there. I cognize property doesn't adjacent maturity, but this antheral was successful his mid-thirties astatine the time."

—Anonymous

21. "My past straw with my ex-husband (after implicit 10 years of marriage) was uncovering retired that he'd secretly opened different recognition paper and piled thousands of dollars of indebtedness onto it without making payments. It wasn't the archetypal clip he'd done this nonstop happening — it was the third, actually. I antecedently had to instrumentality connected a important magnitude of recognition paper indebtedness erstwhile helium was unemployed for astir a twelvemonth (he voluntarily discontinue his occupation without a backup and refused to use to thing that wasn't precisely what helium wanted) portion I was forced to wage for EVERYTHING connected my <30k salary."

"I had begged him to code his spending problems and his buying addiction, but helium ne'er did. He kept loaning MY wealth to radical without asking (mostly his household members) oregon moving retired to get maine 'a small treat.' It didn't assistance that it was besides a sexless marriage, and I was much of a genitor than a spouse anyway. Finding retired astir the past recognition card, my full assemblage went limp, and I felt numb. I virtually couldn't spot a aboriginal for myself wherever I was doing immoderate amended than scraping by with idiosyncratic who truthful intelligibly did not worth fiscal information the mode that I do.

It's not been casual doing it connected my own, and I'm not financially cleanable by immoderate stretch, but I cognize my relationship is ne'er overdrawn, and I cognize my bills are paid. That means the satellite to me."

—Anonymous

22. "I worked for a schoolhouse territory for 5 and a fractional years. My duty was toxic, and I ended up being fired connected Valentine's Day due to the fact that I wouldn’t bash other enactment that wasn’t required of my colleagues. I had to battalion up my full table successful beforehand of a vice principal, idiosyncratic from HR, and a national rep. I wasn’t capable to drawback the flowers my hubby had sent maine due to the fact that I was escorted retired and the boxes were placed successful my car for me. I arrived home, relieved to beryllium retired of the situation. My hubby looked astatine maine and asked wherever the flowers were. I explained however I wasn’t capable to drawback them due to the fact that of the concern and however stressful it was (the HR idiosyncratic had spent 30 minutes yelling astatine me). He told maine however horrible I was for forgetting them and however overmuch I disrespected him and our relationship. He stopped speaking to maine arsenic a punishment. I knew that was it."

23. "He came downstairs precocious connected what was the millionth relapse helium had had during our narration and told maine I was excessively fat, helium wasn't attracted to me, and helium felt similar helium had conscionable settled. I pretended things were good and recovered a roommate to regenerate him successful the location I bought for us."

"Two years later, I'm dating the smartest, astir fantastic man, and couldn't beryllium happier. Turns retired helium wasn't the 1 that settled — I was."

—Anonymous