This Woman’s Husband Asked For A Paternity Test To Prove Their Son Is His — Now She’s Asking For A Divorce And Wants To Know Who’s In The Wrong

Recently, Reddit idiosyncratic Only_Injury8944 shared that she's divorcing her hubby aft helium asked for a paternity trial connected their lad — but wondered if she was successful the incorrect for "letting" him bash the test.

She wrote, "My hubby precocious asked maine for a paternity test. Why? Because our lad looks thing similar him. I ne'er cheated connected him. I would never. He knows helium was my archetypal and lone partner. I told him helium tin person the test. Who americium I to halt him from it? He took the trial and recovered retired our lad is really his and helium seemed precise happy."

"I told him congrats. Now, you are definite it's your ain lad you are paying kid enactment for. He asked, 'What does that mean,' and I told him if helium thought I cheated connected him, past we genuinely shouldn't beryllium married. I took my lad and left, and we are presently staying successful a edifice and I'm going to get divorced."

"He keeps calling and texting and begging maine to travel backmost but I don't privation to. He said if I had specified a occupation with the trial past I should person stopped him alternatively of allowing it and past 'acting similar a bratty kid and ruining our lives.' I'm not definite however I'm the 1 ruining our lives. He is the 1 who thinks I'm a cheater; helium should beryllium blessed helium doesn't person to unrecorded with a cheater anymore."

A batch of comments supported the OP's determination and declared her Not The Asshole (NTA).

"He would person treated that kid similar the merchandise of this imaginary affair. Stopping him would conscionable springiness him licence to punish the child. NTA, your hubby is the brat, and present helium gets to slumber successful the furniture helium made."

—10000nails

"Definitely a lose-lose. He already assumed she was cheating and didn't spot her; he's talking retired of hindsight. If she told him to footwear rocks with the paternity test, helium would affirm successful his caput she cheated."

"Going done with it lone helped her anyway; wherefore beryllium with idiosyncratic who can't spot you to beryllium faithful? At slightest present she tin beryllium it's his kid. Sucks for him but possibly you should spot the idiosyncratic you wed and person a kid with."

—TheAsianTroll

"100% NTA. He accused you of cheating without existent evidence, and that benignant of distrust tin destruct a relationship. A paternity trial isn’t conscionable a tiny request, it’s a superior accusation. You didn’t 'ruin your lives,' helium did by doubting you. If helium didn’t spot you then, wherefore should you spot him now?"

"Welp. He fto that reddish pill, incel bullshit get to him and she’s leaving. How despicable and entitled of him. I would bash the nonstop aforesaid happening and anticipation different women successful OP’s presumption bash the same."

"There is thing inherently incorrect with radical who person this weird content that each babies should beryllium DNA tested arsenic if it’s a communal occurrence for women to cheat and 'trap' their husbands with kids who aren’t theirs. Also emotion however everyone becomes a genealogist erstwhile a babe is born. Two radical and generations of faces travel unneurotic to marque a baby; my kid looks similar my mom/uncles and thing similar maine and their father, lol. It happens."

—Ok_Introduction9466

"You did the close thing. Babies look...weird. Almost each the time, erstwhile they archetypal 'come out,' they hardly look similar a human, fto unsocial their parents, and they alteration SO overmuch truthful quickly."

"You are perfectly close that you should not wed idiosyncratic you don't trust, and if his archetypal instinct successful seeing his kid is to get a paternity test, helium evidently does not spot you astatine all. You were besides successful the close for not stopping him from getting that trial due to the fact that however could you? He has each close to get the trial if helium wants to. And you trying to get him not to instrumentality a trial would lone marque you look much blameworthy successful his eyes anyway."

—MightyShenDen

"NTA. Any antheral who asks for a paternity trial from his woman should expect that the trial effect volition travel with divorcement papers stapled to it."

"I anticipation your kid is alright. My dada had a paternity trial done connected maine erstwhile I was astir 10. Just me, too, eldest of the bunch. Pretty definite that's a large portion of wherefore I'm conscionable processing self-esteem successful my 30s. Nothing says 'I don't privation you' successful rather the aforesaid way."

—derekdedurk

"My oldest girl is simply a c transcript of my ex-husband. However his household had drilled it truthful hard into his caput that she wasn’t his, that erstwhile we divorced, helium got a paternity trial AND paid other for a rush. I laughed astatine the $650 helium virtually pissed away. I ne'er cheated. But helium accused maine a lot. Makes maine wonder! And you’re DEF NTA!"

—Delicious_Network297

But not each commenter agreed with OP. There were plentifulness that were sticking up for her husband.

"YTA. Sometimes radical person dumb thoughts. Sometimes those thoughts nag and you extremity up ruminating implicit them. It doesn't substance however illogical they are, they tin devour astatine you. If there's a trial you tin bash that would laic them to rest, past you should bash it."

"I whitethorn beryllium successful the number present but I bash deliberation YTA successful this situation. You told him to get the trial and past flipped retired erstwhile helium did. If you were going to clasp it against him, past don't archer him to instrumentality the test."

—bossandy

"If that is the lone crushed you are getting a divorce, past yes, YTA. There has to beryllium much to it than that."

—Ok_Good_2577

"Holy shit, blowing up your household implicit this? Go to couple's therapy. Or pass better. Imagine explaining to your kid helium has to divided clip with his parents due to the fact that his dada was insecure. I cognize I'll get downvoted to hellhole for this, but YTA. Your kid deserves better."

—Cichlidsaremyjam

So what bash you deliberation — did OP bash the close thing? Share your thoughts successful the comments below!