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This has to beryllium the astir unsocial narration communicative I've ever travel crossed connected the AITA subreddit, and it took maine connected a rollercoaster ride.
A user, DirectionProper9461, is questioning her caller determination to record for divorcement from her husband, who repeatedly tightened each of the jar lids successful their room to the constituent that she could ne'er unfastened anything.
Here's the afloat story: "His implicit tightening jar lids person been an contented since helium was conscionable visiting astatine my location erstwhile we were dating. First, it started with conscionable things helium used, and past implicit time, it became each damn solid jar with a metallic lid. He'd tighten them truthful overmuch I couldn't unfastened them without assistance."
"It wasn't a immense woody if helium was there, but if I was alone, it was truthful annoying. More times than I tin count, I've opened a caller jar of thing due to the fact that I couldn't get the jar open."
"It's been a recurring rhythm implicit the past 5 years. It's conscionable a happening that would escalate until I had a large meltdown and freaked out, screaming, frustrated, and seemingly brainsick due to the fact that it's conscionable a lid. Then, it would get amended for a while, and past it would dilatory go an contented again. It was conscionable getting worse and worse until I reached a breaking constituent again. Sometimes, I virtually consciousness insane for being truthful upset implicit jar lids."
"He initially claimed that helium did it to 'keep nutrient fresh'. After galore arguments astir it, I insisted that I don't judge it keeps thing fresh, and adjacent if it does marque things past longer, I don't attraction if it means I can't devour my freaking nutrient erstwhile I want. I'll conscionable regenerate things that spell atrocious due to the fact that they are closed normally. Then the excuse was that 'it's a habit.'"
(Now here's wherever the communicative takes a HARD near turn.)
"So, astir a period ago, my hubby had a household exigency and had to question retired of authorities for 10 days. The archetypal time he's gone, I observe a jar I can't open. I was annoyed and was going to the store to bargain caller pickles erstwhile the neighbour said hullo and to fto him cognize if I needed thing portion helium was retired of town."
"I said hold present and got the jar, which helium opened. The adjacent day, I saw him extracurricular and asked him to unfastened different jar. He offered to travel unfastened each the jars. I agreed, and helium came in, and helium went to the fridge and opened each the jars but 2, which helium couldn't open."
"I thanked him profusely and told him I'd cook immoderate of his favourite cookies aboriginal successful the week. He laughed and said it was nary large deal, and aft confirming that I wouldn't beryllium upset if the remaining 2 jars were destroyed successful his effort to unfastened them, helium took them location to his store to unfastened them 1 mode oregon another."
"He said that he's heard maine screaming astir over-tightened jar lids a fewer times implicit the years, and he's truly pondered if I was brainsick oregon if my hubby was truly over-tightening the jar lids."
"He said you cognize this was intentional. It was each jar, and I'm definite helium doesn't regularly usage blistery capsicum paste oregon mango puree oregon immoderate of your different fancy cooking stuff. Then helium held up the 2 jars helium couldn't unfastened and said, 'I don't cognize wherefore he's doing it, but it wasn't an accident.'"
"After helium left, I locked the door, sat connected my room floor, and cried. Then, I felt blistery and lightheaded. I vomited successful the trash can. My thorax hurt. It crossed my caput that I mightiness beryllium having a bosom attack. I thought astir calling an ambulance but sat backmost connected my room level instead."
"Later, the neighbour came backmost with the opened jar of blistery fudge and apologized that helium couldn't prevention the figs. He said helium broke the jar, trying to get it open. He besides apologized for what helium said astir my hubby doing it connected purpose. I assured him it was okay."
"I couldn't slumber that night. Tossed and turned each night. I called retired of work. By 10 a.m., I realized that I couldn't enactment joined anymore, and I made an assignment with a lawyer for the adjacent day."
"There are virtually nary different issues, nary cheating, nary abuse, we had a bully enactment life, some person bully jobs, bully house, nary fiscal issues. He was perfectly blindsided erstwhile helium came home, and I told him I wanted a divorce."
"He inactive won't admit that helium tightened the lids connected purpose. He suggested we spell to matrimony counseling, but I refused. There is nary point. I conscionable virtually can't get past the deity damned jar lids. I inactive consciousness a small spot brainsick astir that. I person nary thought wherefore helium would tighten each jar lid truthful tightly that I couldn't unfastened it. He has fixed maine nary reason. He inactive won't adjacent admit that helium did it connected purpose. But the blistery capsicum paste is successful the backmost of the fridge. I usage it lone erstwhile I marque Indian food. It's down different things. He's ne'er utilized it. It's thing you could enactment successful nutrient without cooking it. The capsicum paste could not person been an accident. It couldn't. Maybe helium enactment mango puree connected his toast oregon successful his oatmeal, but the capsicum paste couldn't person been an accident."
"That's what my beingness comes down to. I'm getting a divorcement due to the fact that the lid of my blistery capsicum paste was over-tightened. If it had been each jar but that one, I could try. I could person a sliver of doubt. I could bash thing else, but I conscionable can't get past the blistery capsicum paste. Most of our friends and families either deliberation I'm brainsick oregon an asshole. What bash you think?"
Many radical successful the comments were connected the archetypal poster's (OP's) side, saying that she wasn't the asshole for leaving.
"Not the asshole. Your hubby has spent 5 years deliberately making your beingness harder successful tiny ways and past lying to your look to marque you deliberation you are crazy," user Open-Incident_3601 wrote.
"No, you're not getting a divorcement due to the fact that of jar lids; you're getting a divorcement due to the fact that your hubby is gaslighting you for sport," idiosyncratic Garden_gnome1609 agreed.
"OP, earlier you determination out, bargain his favourite jar of foods and ace glue each the lids," user JayNow wrote.
This idiosyncratic shared a akin acquisition with their ex-husband:
"My ex told maine helium conscionable didn't perceive our 2 babies erstwhile they woke astatine night. Too tired, conscionable didn't perceive them. I believed him. When the younger kid was 3, the ex told maine he'd lied! Smiled astir it. 'I knew you'd get up! Of course, I heard each time.' Divorced him six months later," idiosyncratic luckyartie wrote.
Other users wholly disagreed and felt the archetypal poster was being a "narcissist."
"OP should bargain a lid-gripper and spell to counseling to get her narcissism nether control. Divorce your antheral truthful helium tin find idiosyncratic who's not going to divorcement them implicit fucking lids," Feisty_Efficiency778 wrote.
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