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There's a tonnnn of societal absorption connected the relationships that either effect successful marriage, oregon extremity up crashing and burning. IMHO, not capable radical speech astir the in-betweeners: the relationships that extremity alternatively peacefully. But those are often the astir interesting!
Well fortunate for us, Redditors person been sharing their brutally honorable answers to this question: "People who person near a perfectly 'fine' relationship to question thing 'more,' however did it go?" And TBH, the responses are mode much fascinating than immoderate cheating ungraded you could archer maine about.
So present are immoderate of the apical stories radical shared:
1. "I near a 'perfectly fine' matrimony erstwhile I was 30. We had been unneurotic since I was 17; helium was 10 years older than me. Everything looked large from the outside, and adjacent from the wrong it was fine. But implicit time, my consciousness of myself began to diminish much and more. When I left, I had respective years of being truly lost, and I questioned my determination daily. Over time, I recovered my footing and grew into the idiosyncratic I americium present (at 62). I remarried erstwhile I was 45. My matrimony isn't 'perfectly fine' — it is fantastic."
"I ne'er ever fantasize astir leaving, similar I did with my archetypal marriage. I americium truthful blessed I near the archetypal marriage. It was the champion determination of my life."
2. "Many years ago, I was dating a truly saccharine young lady, and loved her dearly. I was swayed by a overmuch much sexually adventurous woman, and broke up with my girlfriend. I ne'er cheated connected her, but I did extremity the relationship. The adventurous 1 ended up cheating connected maine doubly earlier we broke up."
"Granted, it ended good due to the fact that years aboriginal I would conscionable my eventual woman (married 30 years), but it was a anserine mistake astatine the time."
3. "I astir left, if that counts. At the 32-year mark, I was tasked for eighteen months with the end-of-life attraction for my parents, and it astir destroyed me. My hubby did not bash 1 happening to enactment me, adjacent erstwhile straight asked. In the years I processed my ain trauma, I began to spot him successful a overmuch much honorable light. I had placed him connected a pedestal each of our years together. I came precise adjacent to leaving — however, our mature family, 4 grandkids, affluent lifestyle, and mostly regular compatibility made maine pause."
"Now, I americium OK, stronger, and precise wide that successful galore respects I americium connected my ain successful this life. I conjecture I settled, but astatine 67, it is what it is 🤷♀️."
4. "A person divorced her hubby years agone due to the fact that she was bored. She ne'er joined again nor had a romanticist narration — not for deficiency of desire; dates turned into friendships oregon fizzled out. She told maine astir 5 years aft she'd divorced him (and helium was happily remarried) not to permission idiosyncratic due to the fact that they are boring."
"There's nary warrant that you'll find idiosyncratic much exciting."
5. "I was married, but it was conscionable 'fine.' Very small sex, precise small laughter — conscionable roommates who shared chores. We had ne'er truly been head-over-heels successful love, but had a precise stable, coagulated relationship, for the astir part. The separation was initially mutual, but past my ex changed his caput astatine the 11th hr and didn’t privation the divorce. At that point, I was excessively acold gone mentally. There was thing near for me. So we divorced. There was nary 1 else, conscionable a heavy dissatisfaction with my relationship."
"It took 8 years to find my existent partner, and I couldn’t beryllium happier. This is what I knew I wanted and deserved each on (everyone deserves this benignant of emotion and connection)."
6. "I dated a beauteous miss for astir six months. I went connected a travel and stayed successful a friend’s apartment, wherever a miss who I had a crush connected years earlier was living. She had changeable maine down erstwhile I asked her connected a date. I realized I felt much profoundly astir the ex-crush than I did astir my girlfriend. I decided I wanted thing deeper, truthful I broke up with her that night."
"Married the crush 2 years later. It's present been 44 years."
7. "I conscionable realized I preferred not to person a partner. We were 'fine,' but being coupled added much accent than it alleviated, for me. So I wasn't hoping for idiosyncratic better. Alone was better."
8. "His manner was chiefly staying location and watching TV, and helium was good with that being each that helium did. I ended up having to spell events I recovered absorbing by myself. The 1 clip I was capable to get him to spell to a poesy unfastened mic with me, helium complained astir being bored and we had to permission early. I ended up leaving him, chiefly due to the fact that if I person to spell to truthful galore things unsocial and woody with my problems alone, I mightiness arsenic good be. I fundamentally already was. I was inactive precise overmuch successful emotion with him, but emotion isn't enough. You tin inactive find yourself successful a dynamic wherever you're doing each the enactment with idiosyncratic who conscionable isn't gathering your effort."
"I've been azygous since, which makes it 7 years now, but it's been 7 years of peace. I person been capable to spell wherever I privation and bash immoderate I want. I'm not chained to the sofa watching TV with idiosyncratic due to the fact that that's each they privation to do.
I was besides getting sick of him complaining astir however helium hated surviving with his parents and didn't similar his job. Today, he's inactive surviving with his parents, and lone conscionable changed jobs. That's 7 years of complaining I americium truthful gladsome I didn't person to perceive to."
9. "I moved to my existent metropolis 10 years ago, and my kids made friends with different kids who had azygous moms. Every azygous 1 of them is inactive azygous 10 years later, and they each wanted a happier ending. There's a deficiency of bully azygous men successful this area, and wives thin to clasp onto the bully ones. So, leaving is nary warrant 'better' volition beryllium retired there."
10. "I, a 39-year-old female, near a perfectly good narration erstwhile I was 24. But looking back, it wasn't really 'perfectly fine.' We dated six years, and we didn't unrecorded together. I didn't conscionable his family. We were wildly antithetic astatine the time. We did not person large sex. He is simply a large person, but helium wasn't my person."
"How is it going? I person dated large radical since then, but cipher has stuck astir for the agelong haul. I've learned and grown a lot.
I'm beauteous blessed with my decisions, each things considered. I judge I was profoundly unhappy and if I had continued that relationship, I would astir apt person cheated and done worse things to extremity it."
11. "I got divorced successful 2023. Many aspects of the narration were good; however, I ne'er felt capable intersexual compatibility — and different differences were starting to emerge. If I don't get into different relationship, it doesn't fuss maine that much."
"I'm successful therapy present (not connected with the relationship) and looking for idiosyncratic growth."
12. "I near the narration that was 'perfectly fine' erstwhile I was 30 years old. There was thing horrible going on, but I knew I wasn't happy, that we weren't overmuch of a couple, and that I had settled. I met him erstwhile I was precise young, and we got joined beauteous overmuch due to the fact that it was the adjacent step, not due to the fact that we were caput implicit heels successful emotion with each other."
"17 years later...I americium remarried and person been for 13 years. The thought of staying with my ex-husband inactive makes maine shudder."
13. "I near a perfectly good marriage. I was 19 erstwhile we met, and we were unneurotic 5 years. I realized astir instantly that, though determination was thing 'wrong,' the full happening wasn’t 'right' either. At slightest for me."
"I near him astir 12 hours aft gathering idiosyncratic I had an instant, lightning-bolt transportation with. We moved successful unneurotic instantly and were unneurotic 42 years, with 2 kids."
14. "Working arsenic a bodyman, I was burned third-degree implicit 32% of my body, and it took 5 surgeries to recover. The occurrence caused a alteration successful my careers, which required maine to move. That caused the divided betwixt maine and my wife, who was a teacher. She didn't privation to springiness up tenure and commencement each implicit again, and I had to instrumentality the job, due to the fact that jobs similar it were once-in-a-lifetime offers. So we agreed to split. She moved on, and truthful did I."
"28 years later, I'm inactive working, and she's retired and enjoying life. I remarried and person different truly bully pistillate who loves the travel.
We've settled down successful the mountains. Life's not perfect, but it's working."
15. "I dumped 4 dependable boyfriends of 18 months oregon much implicit the years for assorted reasons. It ne'er occurred to maine that I needed to enactment successful a narration that was OKAY conscionable to debar being single."
16. "If you're reasoning astir leaving, everything isn’t 'fine.' And it’s good to question fulfillment! Listen to that Jiminy Cricket — your caput is telling you something."
"I left, and I’m overmuch happier alone. You are allowed to beryllium azygous and blessed with that! I person fulfilling relationships and my ain space, each my needs are being met."
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