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1. "I concisely dated a feline astatine 19, past we remained bully friends aft breaking up. Several years later, helium jokingly (I thought) projected astatine his mom’s day party. While I was laughing on with the 'joke,' helium whispered successful my ear, 'I’m not kidding. I emotion you.' I was mortified, but trapped successful beforehand of each these people, truthful I said yes. A week later, I yet got the courageousness to interruption it off. He didn’t talk to maine for years, but eventually, we became friends again, and helium apologized for putting maine successful that atrocious position. He’s a fantastic azygous dada now, and I’ve been happily joined for 18 years."
2. "I ne'er privation to get married. He knew but thought I would accidental yes if it was a precise nationalist proposal."
—Anonymous
3. "My spouse of 8 years projected to maine astatine our daughter's day enactment (an lawsuit I planned). His full household was there, but excavation was absent. By then, we had been unneurotic truthful agelong and had 2 kids, and it was crystal wide astatine that infinitesimal helium was lone doing it retired of obligation. It was similar having the full illusion of his committedness to maine shattered successful an instant. He's a precise progressive dad, but we're nary longer together. I needed idiosyncratic successful my beingness who would take maine each day, and it turns retired that idiosyncratic was me."
—Anonymous
4. "My ex and I met successful nursing school. We were some entering the aforesaid twelvemonth of the RN program. It was bully astatine first; helium was conscionable what I needed arsenic I had walked distant from a hard narration conscionable prior, truthful astatine that time, helium felt similar helium was 'Mr. Right.' That honeymoon signifier ended erstwhile I continued to determination connected successful the program, but helium was failing—and yet exceeded his attempts. He hated maine erstwhile I begged him to power to a antithetic nursing program. I could archer it made him consciousness inferior adjacent to me. I graduated arsenic an RN with honors, and helium was inactive 'figuring it out.' One night, we were eating pizza astatine his parents’ craphole of a place, and helium 'asked' maine to wed him. I mislaid it connected him due to the fact that helium had thing to his name—it was straight-up manipulation."
"He continued to prime fights with me, gaslight me, and guilt-trip me. Once helium graduated, helium asked my best friend if helium should propose, and I’m beyond thankful that she talked him retired of it. We past went connected our last travel unneurotic and broke up the time aft returning. I regret staying truthful agelong with him and being forced to consciousness similar I was the occupation and that thing was incorrect with me. He is present married, got everything helium wanted, and acts similar helium did it each himself. I hatred him."
—Anonymous
5. "I saved myself from the proposal. We had been unneurotic for 3.5 years and surviving unneurotic for two. I tried hard to disregard the reddish flags (he was precise manipulative and lied astir everything) due to the fact that helium was a bully feline and did emotion maine precise much. For a fewer months astir my birthday, helium would (in beforehand of me) amusement my friends, 'Look what I’m getting her soon,' and of course, each my friends told maine it was an engagement ringing that helium was showing them. During 1 of our fights, wherever I caught him successful different lie, I brought up the information that I knew helium was getting maine an engagement ring. He admitted he’d been making payments connected a ringing for maine and was conscionable astir to wage it off. I exploded and said, 'How could you deliberation I’d judge a ringing from a antheral who would alternatively marque payments connected a ringing to enactment connected my digit than assistance maine with rent, the bills, oregon adjacent buying groceries?'"
"He was connected and disconnected unemployment and had monolithic indebtedness that helium hid from me, which led to maine being the sole supplier for some of us. He responded with, 'It’s my prime what I walk my wealth on.' Definitely not hubby material, and we broke up soon after. Because we broke up—and helium was broke with nary wealth to get a caller spot oregon wage astatine ours—my landlord kindly evicted him from our spot aft helium stayed determination for a period post-breakup."
—Anonymous
6. "We were dating conscionable astir six months, and helium asked maine to wed him astatine his parents’ vow renewal. I thought it was truly inappropriate, truthful I turned him down. He was truly upset astir it, and we inactive dated for 2 much years…but looking back, it was the close decision. I was 19, and helium was 26, and I conscionable wasn’t ready. Like, astatine ALL!"
—Anonymous
7. "An ex-boyfriend I hadn't seen successful implicit 2 years—and hadn’t dated for 18 months earlier that—showed up astatine my assemblage apartment. He asked maine to instrumentality a locomotion with him. He explained that helium felt it was clip to settee down and get married. He asked maine to wed him due to the fact that helium 'was arsenic fond of maine arsenic he'd ever beryllium of anyone.' I said no. I aboriginal recovered retired helium near my flat and went to sojourn different aged girlfriend. He told her I had turned him down, truthful he’d travel to inquire her to wed him. She was his backup plan."
—Anonymous
8. "We had been dating for 2 years—very long-distance. (He lived successful London; I was connected the West Coast of the United States). We would instrumentality turns each different period flying to spot each other. On 1 of his trips to spot me, helium handed maine a packet and said nothing. I looked astatine it, and it was an exertion for a matrimony visa. I looked astatine him and asked wherefore helium handed it to me, and helium said it was truthful I could capable retired my part. I broke up with him close then. The remainder of his sojourn was beauteous tense, truthful I picked up other shifts astatine work. He ne'er adjacent officially asked me—just handed maine paperwork."
—Anonymous
9. "We had lone been dating for a month. It was my day and helium got maine a Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle T-shirt (which I ne'er retrieve expressing involvement in). He pulled retired a MOOD RING with dolphins connected it. Thankfully, helium didn’t get down connected 1 genu successful the restaurant. I said no. He said helium would inquire maine again successful December (my day is successful July). But helium would deterioration a ringing connected his near manus truthful 'all the girls cognize helium is taken.' I hung connected to that brainsick for 2 much weeks earlier dumping him."
—Anonymous
10. "A feline I was seeing for a portion projected retired of the blue. I had nary thought that’s wherever his caput was at. The narration surely wasn’t astatine that stage. We were conscionable starting to truly get to cognize each other. I had to accidental no. The feline was turning retired to beryllium a dumpster fire. He was an alcoholic, smoked, had choler issues, and had nary self-control oregon willpower. Thankfully, helium ended the narration soon aft that, redeeming maine the trouble".
—Anonymous
11. "The idiot lived with his parent astatine 43 and was truthful anxious to flight her clutches aft a atrocious matrimony of 13 and a fractional years (where the woman cheated anterior to and during). He asked for support to wed maine from my kids, but we had lone reconnected for 3 oregon 4 months. He seemingly wasn’t moving but someway got wealth for a $3,000 ringing and during my luncheon interruption thought it was the clip to inquire me. I covered his rima and said 'Don’t...'Cause really? In my bureau is the champion you tin do?' I proceeded to get escaped of him and recovered retired helium stole my Christmas acquisition wealth astir apt to get the ringing arsenic good arsenic watched him person a intelligence breakdown."
—Anonymous
12. "We were successful Vegas for a agelong play trip. He was acting odd, needing to spell disconnected connected his ain for an hr oregon so. I should person known. We went retired to devour and afterward, we stopped to ticker the large fountains successful beforehand of The Bellagio. He got down connected 1 genu and opened an bare box. He had ever been precise frugal, but damn...I was mortified and each of the chap tourists were mortified for me."
—Anonymous
13. "It was connected our one-year anniversary. I had been wanting to suggest to him that time but knew I shouldn’t arsenic we were some 20 and financially unstable and inactive moving done a batch of differences successful our relationship. We went retired to meal and connected our thrust home, I opened up astir however I planned this full large happening successful my caput and it was going to beryllium this immense happening but we were gonna beryllium unsocial truthful it would beryllium intimate. I explained wherefore I decided against it and helium conscionable goes, 'Let’s bash it. Let’s get married.' I was precise taken aback arsenic helium was precise adamant that we don’t get engaged until the three–four-year people successful our relationship. We went backmost and distant for a portion and past the speech went soundless for the past 15 minutes of the thrust home."
"As we pulled into our flat complex, I looked astatine him and said, 'I emotion you truthful so much, but we cannot get engaged.' Six months later, we are inactive together, but we person been having truthful galore stress-related narration issues and I conscionable cognize that the added accent of a wedding would’ve caused america to divided and I emotion him excessively overmuch to hazard that. I made the close determination and present we’re successful therapy to enactment done our issues and I’m secretly redeeming to get him a ringing truthful I tin suggest adjacent year."
—Anonymous
14. "I’ve been projected to 3 abstracted times. The archetypal fellow projected due to the fact that helium knew I was catching connected to each his lies and I was getting acceptable to permission him. I said nary and helium threw himself connected apical of my car to enactment with him. The 2nd feline was an abusive portion of crap and helium projected due to the fact that helium wanted to trap me. I had to flight that relationship. And my 3rd connection comes from my present hubby and helium is genuinely an angel. I’m truthful gladsome I waited for the close 1 and ne'er jumped into a marriage."
15. "I lived unsocial successful Texas and my household was each successful California. We had been dating for a abbreviated play of time, but things were going well. When I was scheduled to person a tiny country (but nevertheless I needed idiosyncratic to thrust maine to and from the infirmary and look aft maine for astatine slightest 24 hours), helium didn’t inquire for clip disconnected to beryllium with maine for the surgery. He took 10 days to travel spot maine afterward. And erstwhile I tried to interruption up with him…he substance maine a representation of a jewelry bid for an costly ring. But it lone made it easier to interruption up with him. I was not going to perpetrate to surviving a beingness with idiosyncratic who would not beryllium determination for maine and past usage wealth to repair the situation."
—Anonymous
16. "I was 20 and helium was 25. He took maine to a truly bully edifice and aft dinner, helium presented maine with his grandmother’s ring. It turns retired he’d already spoken to my dada and my full household knew. I said yes successful the infinitesimal but knew I would interruption it off. I liked him precise much. He was a bully feline but not what I wanted successful a husband. We didn’t person the aforesaid values oregon morals. When I returned the ringing astir a period later, helium threw it into a river, moved wide crossed the country, got married, and moved backmost to municipality respective years later."
"I tally into him each erstwhile successful a while. Due to his existent deficiency of ambition, his woman financially supports him and he’s cheated connected her astatine slightest once. Meanwhile, I’ve been happily joined for 24 years. Sometimes I deliberation astir the full 'What if I’d joined him?' script and not erstwhile person I been capable to reason it would’ve worked for us. Or astatine least, I don’t ever deliberation I would’ve been happy."
17. "My assemblage fellow technically asked maine erstwhile we were astatine a enactment once. He got insanely drunk and projected portion I was trying to get him into a cab. It wasn’t a get-down-on-one-knee connection — it was much of a 'Let’s bash thing crazy; let’s get married.' I told him no, but I would reconsider if helium inactive remembered asking maine the adjacent morning. He didn’t remember, and helium ended up dumping maine similar 2 weeks later."
18. And finally, "My person turned down a matrimony connection due to the fact that the feline asked her dada for support to wed her, which, arsenic a extremist feminist, she didn't admit AT ALL. Her dada told him no, and she was already readying connected ending things, truthful she gave him the boot. She's beauteous definite helium tried to suggest to get her to enactment with him, which checks retired due to the fact that helium was precise manipulative."
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