People Are Sharing The Relationship Red Flag That Ended Up Being A Sign Of Something Really Toxic

Relationships travel and go, but immoderate relationships are doomed from the start. Redditor writestrend8 asked, "What’s the biggest red flag you ignored successful a narration that blew up later?" Here's what radical said.

1. "She had her telephone permanently attached to her manus and was ever replying to radical erstwhile she was with me, but erstwhile we were apart, it took ages for her to adjacent work my messages."

2. "When I had concerns astir thing she was doing oregon thing going connected successful the relationship, and I brought it to her attention, she either refused to speech astir it oregon got huffy astatine maine for bringing it up."

—Anonymous28_018

3. "The information that everyone told maine helium was an asshole, but helium was bully to me. That is, until helium wasn't."

4. "That 'his ex was crazy.' I was young and truly believed it was each connected her."

—Efficient-Storm7728

5. "My ex-husband ne'er told maine helium loved maine oregon reciprocated it if I said it. We were unneurotic for 8 years. The time I asked for a divorce, helium told me, 'But I emotion you.'

6. "He'd get upset implicit the tiniest of things. He'd clasp that irritation and choler each time (something broke? Better beryllium pissed and mean each day!). He got huffy astatine questions and got huffy erstwhile my answers weren't the answers helium expected. Need I accidental more? Some radical can't flight their aggravated emotions and conscionable transportation them astir each day."

—laser50

7. "Anytime I brought an contented up oregon interest oregon thing that conscionable upset me, it would get turned astir truthful that I was the atrocious guy."

8. "He had a batch of miss friends but nary feline friends. I wanted to beryllium a chill woman who was good with that due to the fact that I had guys I was earnestly conscionable friends with. Well, you cognize that communicative ended. He said helium meant to accidental they were friends...but with benefits, and helium thought helium was wide the full time. It was 1 of my archetypal existent understandings of gaslighting."

—Tired_Of-UR_ShYte

9. "Love bombing. When you're an inexperienced and depressed kid, it's the cleanable trap."

10. "I thought helium conscionable ran colder than I bash and didn't request arsenic overmuch affection, oregon it didn't travel arsenic people to him. Turns out, I was dating a heavy avoidant antheral who past unsighted sided and discarded maine with nary explanation."

—lightbluebeluga

11. "If he'll cheat with you, he'll cheat connected you."

12. "They ne'er apologized, ever. Everything was someway ever my fault, and I didn’t recognize however exhausting that was until I was out."

—dustymusee

13. "Before officially dating, helium told maine his past narration ended a twelvemonth prior. Fast guardant to really dating, it started coming retired each the relationships helium had successful betwixt the 1 twelvemonth and me. It was multiple, 'Oh, I dated her for 3 months, her for 5 months, her for two.' That’s erstwhile I realized that this idiosyncratic cannot beryllium alone, has to beryllium successful a relationship, and takes immoderate helium tin get. It’s not astir the person, it’s astir conscionable having a person. He doesn’t emotion me; helium conscionable loves that helium has somebody. He replaced maine successful 5 days."

14. "He has an overbearing and controlling mother, and helium was incapable to basal up to her."

—Kari_Rose_1031

15. "We'd person the aforesaid fights implicit and implicit and implicit again, adjacent though we’d scope an statement connected however to resoluteness it each azygous time."

16. "An inappropriate property gap. I was a teenager, helium was successful his precocious 20s. I knew it was weird, but I justified it due to the fact that successful my mind, I was precise mature for my age. When I broke up with him, helium was highly immature astir it. I accidental a antheral funny successful a schoolgirl mightiness not beryllium the astir well-adjusted benignant of person."

—Random_name2938

17. "The archetypal clip helium deed me. Even if it stops for immoderate time, it ever happens again. Or it would go throwing things astatine my caput oregon crossed the room. Putting holes successful the walls. Breaking my stuff. Driving crazy, reckless speeding, and swerving. If they’ll physically intimidate you once, they’ll bash it again."

18. "She said each her exes were crazy. Turns retired the lone communal denominator was her."

—bustyplayful

19. "She demanded I delete a photograph of maine and a pistillate person (who I’d known for 10 years, fundamentally a sister) from my Instagram. I did enactment up a fight, but yet gave successful due to the fact that she wouldn’t halt asking. It was each downhill from there."

20. “When helium said, 'I’m acrophobic I’m going to wounded you. 🥺.' Translation: I’m perfectly going to wounded you, I’m conscionable pretending close present similar I mightiness not due to the fact that I privation to instrumentality you into reasoning I can't attraction astir anyone other but myself."

Do you person 1 to add? What reddish emblem did you announcement successful a narration that turned retired to beryllium a motion of thing genuinely toxic? Tell america successful the comments oregon successful this anonymous form.