Men Are Sharing The Things They’ve Noticed In Other Men That Might Seem Insignificant, But Actually Reveal A LOT About Who They Truly Are

Sometimes, the astir telling signs that uncover a person's existent quality are the things they don't adjacent recognize they're doing — similar the mode idiosyncratic handles a tiny inconvenience, oregon their earthy absorption to embarrassment oregon being wrong.

So erstwhile idiosyncratic AuthorConfident9386 connected Reddit asked, "Men, what’s 1 small, seemingly insignificant happening you’ve noticed that tin beryllium a telltale motion of the quality betwixt a genuinely bully antheral and a atrocious one?" I was funny astir the kinds of things men announcement astir each other:

1. "Response to criticism. Like, not disapproval of a fuck-up oregon the prime of their work, but erstwhile they've really done thing kinda shitty to someone. I had a brag who made a benignant of fucked-up gag astir a coworker once. I asked to speech to him successful idiosyncratic astir it, and his absorption was to conscionable calmly listen, admit that it was kinda fucked up, and past not bash it again. The information that helium could instrumentality that benignant of disapproval from idiosyncratic who worked for him with grace and really alteration however helium acted made him the archetypal and lone brag I've respected arsenic a person. Hell, helium fired me, and I tin inactive lone talk good of him."

—HillintheDistance

2. "One wide concept: however comfy they are with things that would 'stereotypically' marque men uncomfortable. It encompasses tons of things. Are they mortally acrophobic of the colour pink? Can they grip feelings — some their ain and those of others? Can they socialize with charismatic women arsenic if they're people, not targets? Can they grip being wrong, embarrassed, oregon looking silly? Can they beryllium 'fatherly' successful nationalist oregon adjacent with different people's kids? In my eyes, the much comfy a antheral is successful those situations, and a 1000 much similar them, the much even-keeled he's going to beryllium wide and the amended antheral he'll beryllium arsenic a result."

—Neriya

3. "There's this weird happening that frat guys, racists, and douchebags do. They benignant of propulsion small things retired determination to trial whether you're 'one of them.' For example, successful a enactment elevator with me, him, and a woman, the pistillate leaves, and the doorway closes, leaving conscionable him and me. He says, 'So she's benignant of ugly, but had a bully ass, huh?' Or they'll randomly flip retired immoderate racist shit. Whatever it is, it ever seems similar an docket to speech a definite way. It ne'er feels natural."

—tipareth1978

4. "Pay attraction to those who, upon facing adversity, accommodate and effort to fig retired a workaround to a occupation situation, versus those who conscionable kick and person a unfortunate mentality but won't assistance a digit to effort to hole the concern oregon assistance themselves. Anyone tin look similar a bully idiosyncratic successful bully times. The existent differentiating origin becomes evident erstwhile there's adversity."

—qxrt

5. "It's a weird consistency that I support wanting to disprove, but erstwhile idiosyncratic says the words 'blah blah blah' portion recounting an interaction, they extremity up behaving successful a dishonorable mode down the line. I don't cognize why, but it's go a quiescent reddish emblem that makes maine wage person attraction to what I accidental and what I hear."

—EMRaunikar

6. "Whether they automatically motorboat into rage mode erstwhile amazed by something. Someone unexpectedly honked astatine you? Rage! Unexpectedly request to pat connected your brakes? Rage! The store doesn’t person the drill spot you wanted? Rage! The edifice ran retired of regular Coke and lone has diet? Rage!"

—Fine-Gas-1898

7. "Being capable to conscionable go, 'You’re right, I’m wrong.' So galore of the men I grew up with couldn’t oregon can’t bash that. If you tin conscionable go, 'Oh, OK, I’m wrong. My bad,' past you’re already amended than astir radical due to the fact that you tin admit you're incorrect alternatively than reason for the involvement of arguing due to the fact that you don’t privation to beryllium wrong."

—Chico3421

8. "In my idiosyncratic experience, it's however they dainty animals. I've ended friendships with guys who mistreated animals and thought it was funny. It's chaotic however immoderate guys tin look wholly fine, and past they'll spell footwear a canine oregon thing for nary fucking reason."

—OneManFight

9. "The king ne'er has to archer radical helium is the king. His subjects volition bash that for him. For me, it's astir stating who you are. If you archer maine you're honest, I won't judge you. Tell maine you're a man, and I'll wonderment if you deliberation you mightiness beryllium a woman. When you archer maine alternatively of showing me, I wonderment who you're really trying to convince. Is it me, oregon are you trying to person yourself?"

—Netmantis

10. "Paraphrasing a Greek proverb: A nine grows large erstwhile aged men works trees successful whose shadiness they cognize they shall ne'er sit. Unfortunately, we person a batch of aged men moving things close present that are lone creating shadiness for themselves."

—sisyphus_was_lazy_10

11. "All the modular 'green flags' are easy adopted by malignant narcissists, particularly if they person that 'charm' that makes you privation to judge them. If you truly privation to cognize someone, it takes time, and there's nary substitute."

—dan_jeffers

12. "Their property oregon cognition toward women doesn't alteration erstwhile determination are lone different men around."

—Trans-Europe_Express

"Or their property oregon cognition doesn’t alteration toward different men erstwhile a pistillate enters the room."

—Stoictripreset

13. "The lone mode to justice a idiosyncratic is by observing their actions implicit time. Our nine is obsessed with being capable to benignant bully from atrocious astatine a glance. That's not however it works."

—sutree1

14. "Integrity. If they're lying astir tiny shit, they're lying astir everything and volition bash fucking gymnastics to screen their bases."

—spotsthefirst

15. "How they transportation themselves. The ones who spell retired of their mode to inhabit arsenic overmuch abstraction arsenic imaginable with their bodies are always, ever assholes."

—FinnbarMcBride

16. "Whenever a feline has to accidental he's a man oregon a bully guy, oregon brag astir the bully things he's done, adjacent if he's being a achromatic knight."

—bussysniffer3000

17. "If they thrust similar an idiot, get roadworthy rage easily, oregon blasted others for their mediocre maneuvering connected the road, that tin beryllium an indicator of mediocre quality successful a man."

—Hungry4science

18. "They get aggravated alternatively of embarrassed erstwhile thing embarrassing happens. If this happens, it's not a bully sign."

—EmperorKira

19. "Humility, self-awareness and the deficiency of request to asseverate oneself successful each situation. If it's not your show, don't get up and commencement singing. I announcement erstwhile radical are quiet."

—carcinoma_kid

20. "Curiosity. Does helium amusement immoderate openness toward those helium can't easy spot successful a box, oregon does his encephalon tally connected conformity?"

—TypewriterMonkey98

21. "When they thin to blasted others for misfortune. A idiosyncratic who takes work and corrects oregon works connected mistakes is mostly a acold amended antheral than 1 who blames others."

—ManOfHeart

22. "The quality to perceive to, absorb, and attraction astir what idiosyncratic they don't basal to payment from is saying."

—MY_CATS_ANUS

23. "How helium treats those who cannot payment him."

—warindf

"Apparently, that's what caused my woman to wage attraction to me. She said, 'It's comic however you dainty the McDonald's attendant the aforesaid mode you dainty your boss.' Apparently, I was raised right. Anyways, that's precise true."

—reasimoes

24. "People who are competitory astir everything. Sports and gaming? Sure, person astatine it. Social interactions? Grow up."

—muks023

25. "How severely bash they privation to beryllium your friend? Anything beyond what's reasonable, and they're seeking to instrumentality vantage of you for immoderate reason."

—unlivedbread

26. And lastly: "Whether they determination buying carts to the designated instrumentality spaces oregon permission them blocking a parking space."

—cone_snail

Men, what's thing you've noticed successful different men that is simply a tell-tale motion that they're either a decent idiosyncratic oregon a verrryyy atrocious one? Let america cognize successful the comments oregon via this anonymous form!

Note: Some responses person been edited for magnitude and/or clarity.