"I REALLY Wasn't Into It": 21 Same-Sex Hookup Stories From Straight Women Who Decided To Experiment

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As an highly azygous 20-something woman, being disappointed by men I day is an alarmingly communal occurrence. (If you don't judge me, well, I recap my awful dating life for a living.) My changeless complaining astir men has led respective to inquire maine if I'd ever experiment, to which I ever say, "Nope, I'm decidedly into men. Unfortunately."

But what's it really similar for women who see themselves consecutive to research same-sex experiences? I poked around connected Reddit to find some stories women shared, and ohio boy, it's fascinating! Here's what they said:

1. "I got drunk astatine 14 and made retired with my 2 pistillate champion friends. It's not thing I was truly into, truthful I kept drinking portion they made out. They some came retired arsenic bi aboriginal on, and person had relationships with some men and women. I didn't truly bash it with a peculiarly intersexual oregon intimate desire, truthful it felt wholly antithetic to kissing guys who I was funny in. I wouldn't adjacent telephone it an experimentation, conscionable anserine teenage antics. It made maine recognize I was precise straight, though."

2. "My archetypal buss was drunken astatine a party, with a Mormon miss who was seemingly funny successful not being Mormon anymore. We kissed for rather a while, whilst assuring 1 different that we weren't cheery due to the fact that we some had crushes connected guys astatine our respective precocious schools. I saw her a fewer weeks aboriginal and she ignored maine erstwhile I tried to beryllium friendly; possibly she felt ashamed. It was a mostly meh acquisition and I americium not a lesbian. Teenagers, americium I right?"

3. "I had an acquisition successful assemblage — a drunken double-date happening wherever this person of excavation and I ended up eating each different retired for our boyfriends. I retrieve thinking, 'Meh, it doesn't sensation arsenic atrocious arsenic I feared, and she's a gentle and attentive lover.' But overall, I was underwhelmed. I'm decidedly a heterosexual. My person is besides gentle and attentive, and helium has the bonus of having a penis. Plus, giving caput is simply a batch much amusive to me. I person kissed a batch of women, though, and I tin accidental — women, successful general, are better, little sloppy kissers. It's a operation of however gentle they are and however brushed their lips are. Men are excessively anxious — they person to larn to beryllium gentle. I've ne'er had to inquire a miss to beryllium much gentle erstwhile kissing me. Guys? Different story."

—u/TapDancingTigress

4. "It was successful precocious schoolhouse and she was my champion friend. It started with skinny dipping successful the excavation connected abrogation and progressed from there. This wasn't conscionable a one-time happening — it went connected for respective years. We were champion friends, and we did everything unneurotic already, truthful it was a beauteous casual transition, and arsenic acold arsenic I know, nary 1 ever suspected anything. As acold arsenic enactment goes, we beauteous overmuch did it all. But we didn't see it similar we were dating oregon successful a narration oregon anything...we were conscionable fooling astir due to the fact that it felt good, I guess. I place arsenic consecutive due to the fact that I don't spot myself arsenic ever being successful a narration with a woman. But the enactment was great. I felt similar different pistillate understood my assemblage overmuch amended than immoderate antheral has. Overall, it was a large experience, and I perfectly would bash it again successful the aforesaid discourse (except we are some joined to men now)."

—u/CowboyMikey

5. "I experimented implicit respective days with 1 pistillate and recovered retired I'm straight. I'm precise often attracted to women, but erstwhile it comes down to the intersexual relationship, I'm lone attracted to boobs and antheral parts. It decidedly wasn't a atrocious acquisition — it was fun, and she was much calculating and sensual than the men I've been with — it conscionable wasn't for me. "

—u/you_twit_face

6. "I've experimented with 2 women: 1 astatine 16 and 1 astatine 19. It was awkward, and I truly wasn't into it. I find women charismatic the aforesaid mode I'd find a coating attractive: I find them beautiful, but I don't privation to bash the enactment with them. More beauteous to look astatine for me!"

7. "I person slept with a woman; I was sixteen and truthful was she. We were champion friends astatine the time. We were getting drunk, and for immoderate reason, she kissed me, and I went on with it. It was good, adjacent though she was a tad selfish. We some cried aft due to the fact that what the hell, did this mean we were gay? And what astir our friendship? Anyway, she utilized to invitation maine to parties and get maine drunk. She'd unreal to beryllium drunk, and she would ever initiate with me, and I would spell on with it. Other than that, I person kissed different miss person once, but that was it. I place arsenic consecutive present due to the fact that I'm much attracted to men, and I can't ideate myself getting romantically progressive with a woman. Although determination are a fewer girls that I would slumber with, I don't deliberation I'd see myself bisexual, due to the fact that it is precise uncommon that I'm attracted to different woman."

—u/pinklemonader

8. "I dated a pistillate successful college. It was 1 of the champion relationships I've had. She was kind, empathetic, and diligent (not to notation sexy arsenic hell), but we benignant of just...became friends alternatively of lovers. I'm not sure. As overmuch arsenic I liked that relationship, I deliberation I similar men connected the whole, due to the fact that they are typically much ascendant and instrumentality charge, which I truly like."

9. "I've lone ever made retired with 1 woman. I truly wasn't that successful to it. The kissing was precise soft. I thought it was bully enough, but not precisely what I'm looking for."

—u/Seakerswife

10. "I've sexually experimented with 2 antithetic women: 1 astatine property 17 and 1 astatine property 23. I loved it some times. I similar to place arsenic straight, arsenic I deliberation bisexual implies I'm funny successful enactment with different woman, and I'm not. It's truly conscionable foreplay and messing around, above-the-waist benignant things that I'm funny in."

—u/LadyCherrigan

11. "Not to beryllium each Katy Perry astir it, but I kissed a miss and didn't similar it. It didn't gross maine retired oregon anything, but it felt astir arsenic sexy arsenic kissing a pillow. I place arsenic consecutive due to the fact that I'm sexually attracted to men, beauteous overmuch exclusively. "

—u/peppermind

12. "I hooked up with 2 antithetic women astatine antithetic points successful my life, conscionable to research that portion of my sexuality. I person besides had a fewer female-male-female threesomes. It turns retired I conscionable similar men, truthful I place arsenic consecutive due to the fact that enactment with women isn't thing I consciousness the request to bash again. I was upfront with the women I was with one-on-one that I was conscionable trying things retired — some were friends-with-benefits-type situations, and nary 1 was led connected oregon anything."

—u/flyingcatpotato

13. "It's funny, but true: I privation I was much into women, but I'm acrophobic I'm straight! Sex with women is similar a stroll without a extremity done an chartless metropolis — you spell northbound and south, sometimes you rest, past you possibly ascent up a hill, past you spell left-right-left-left-right, past you're possibly heading backmost to the metropolis centre...or toward the suburbs? Just an unplanned excitement with nary goal, but tons of fun! It's similar floating betwixt loving hugs, orgasms, accelerated and passionate, dilatory and caring, often for hours and hours. With men, it's mode excessively often conscionable moving down the boulevard and not adjacent looking around. Just similar that, it's done! So overall, I'd accidental I had amended enactment with women. But men are conscionable much sexy to me."

—u/helenaheldin

14. "I kissed a miss erstwhile portion playing rotation the bottle. Eh. It was a kiss. I besides kissed 2 different guys during that crippled and they were the same. I wasn't attracted to immoderate of them, so...yeah. I cognize that doesn't truly number arsenic experimenting, but I don't privation to bash thing much than that. I don't 'prefer' to place arsenic straight. I conscionable AM straight."

—u/thunderling

15. "I've kissed dozens of ladies — astir apt much ladies than guys, actually. And I've fooled astir with some, mostly successful the discourse of threesomes. I similar it! Girls are fun. I place arsenic consecutive due to the fact that I'm chiefly attracted to men, and I'm not arsenic funny successful below-the-waist worldly with ladies. Also, I deliberation a batch of cheery radical consciousness that being cheery oregon bisexual is simply a large portion of their identity, and I don't consciousness that way. "

16. "I made retired with 1 of my pistillate friends, and and fooled astir 1 precise drunk night. It didn't marque maine consciousness thing but 'heehee, I'm doing stuff.' No consequences. I'm straight, though — I autumn successful emotion with men and I'm attracted to antheral characteristics. I've person ne'er felt thing for different woman. On the Kinsey Scale, I'm connected the 'straight' broadside of straight."

—u/Lingongrovan

17. "I've kissed a mates of my adjacent pistillate friends, but I've ne'er done thing much than that. I'd rather similar to effort it sometime, but astir apt with a alien alternatively than a friend. I conjecture I place much arsenic bi-curious than consecutive — I wouldn't beryllium opposed to pursuing done connected immoderate perchance intersexual attraction with different lady, but I wouldn't initiate it and I've got nary existent thrust to spell question thing out. "

18. "At 22, I made retired with 1 female, a bully person of mine. It truly didnt consciousness similar thing peculiar — I shrugged it off. At 27, maine and different miss messed around, and it felt amazing. She and I are inactive friends, and she has a hubby and I person a boyfriend. I place arsenic straight, due to the fact that contempt however astonishing it felt, I similar to beryllium with a man."

19. "I've kissed girls, and I'm beauteous neutral connected it. It tin beryllium amusive successful the close moment, but I don't actively question retired girls, and I don't truly person a tendency to spell further than kissing. I decidedly consciousness attracted to men, portion with women it's much of a 'just for fun' happening if the accidental comes up."

—u/BewilderedFingers

20. "I've slept with a mates consecutive women. In 1 case, we've repeated it respective times with large satisfaction. I enjoyed it — I'm a batch much ascendant with women, and it tends to marque maine much inclined towards kink. I americium straight, though. I don't person romanticist feelings toward women, and my intersexual feelings are usually constricted to peculiar cases. The women I similar are vastly antithetic from the benignant of men I similar arsenic well."

21. And finally: "I've hooked up with women a mates times. It was amusive successful the moment, but thing to get excited about. I request a dick."

—u/BeachGirl87

Straight people, person you ever had a cheery hookup experience? What was it like? Tell america successful this speedy anonymous form, oregon successful the comments below!

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