"He Got Amnesia And Didn't Remember Me": Ex-Fiancés Are Revealing The Wild, Heartbreaking, And Petty Reasons They Canceled Their Weddings

A portion back, we shared stories from people who decided to telephone disconnected their weddings, and the stories were WILD. Then, a clump of readers decided to stock their ain stories. Here's what they said:

Some stories are besides from this thread.

1. "We got legally joined astatine the courthouse a week earlier the ceremonial with household blessings. During that week, helium was arrested and got a felony for theft. Turns retired helium wasn't the unchangeable big helium seemed; he'd been taking wealth and framing idiosyncratic else. Instead of being joined again, it was annulled."

—Anonymous, female, 42, California

2. "A period earlier my wedding, I made the hard determination to telephone it off. Deep down, I knew thing wasn’t right. He had go distant, and implicit time, I started to consciousness little similar a spouse and much similar a live-in maid and babysitter. I perpetually enactment his needs earlier my own. Taking attraction of his kids, cleaning, helping his family, and doing everything I could to marque everyone happy. His household loved me, but determination on the way, I mislaid myself."

—Anonymous, 37, female, Massachusetts 

3. "About 20 years ago, I broke disconnected my engagement when, aft helium moved into my flat earlier the wedding, helium dumped my 2 house-raised cats successful a tract a mates of hours distant portion I was connected a enactment trip."

—Anonymous, 40, female, New York

4. "He called maine erstwhile helium was drunk astatine 3 a.m. and told maine that helium lone asked maine to wed him due to the fact that helium didn’t deliberation helium could bash better. Then, helium denied that it had happened the adjacent day, contempt determination being a telephone connected my telephone log."

—FuerGrissa0stDrauka

5. "My person ended her engagement with her fiancé due to the fact that it came retired that helium was ripping everyone off. He was an concern banker, a charismatic guy, who had convinced everyone helium knew (family, friends, her household and friends, businesses) to put with him, lying astir the returns, a robbing-Peter-to-pay-Paul situation. It each came to airy on with the information that she knew, and helium was physically abusing her to support her quiet. He ended up successful prison."

—tweedledumb4u

6. "He refused to acceptable a date. Then helium refused to marque maine java (same pot; it was large capable for some of us, but helium conscionable wouldn't marque enough). Then helium refused to crook disconnected the elephantine overhead airy successful the chamber erstwhile helium near for enactment earlier than I did, truthful I had to get up to crook it disconnected and couldn't slumber for a fewer much minutes. He conscionable didn't similar maine overmuch aft the excitement wore off, and I wanted much than that. He did, however, stalk and harass maine for weeks aft I broke it off, threatening my occupation and my housing. Which conscionable seems similar a batch much effort than making somewhat much coffee, turning disconnected a light, and not screaming astatine me."

—bloop-bloop-bloop-

7. "He was ever highly jealous and convinced that I was cheating connected him, to the constituent wherever I could lone permission his show to spell to work, and I yet dropped retired of assemblage due to the fact that it became excessively overmuch of a hassle to ever reason each morning. Even erstwhile I was astatine work, I'd get excessive calls wherever he'd impeach maine of not really being astatine work, oregon assertion that my longer-than-usual commute was impervious that I was cheating. I called it quits, kicked him out, and ended up needing a restraining order, past staying with assorted household members until the restraining bid took effect. I'm precise gladsome that I didn't hold it retired due to the fact that astatine that constituent I had been moving connected 'once we get married, he'll beryllium better.'"

—2baverage

8. "It occurred to maine that we ne'er had 1 honorable fight. If I did thing to upset him, he’d stew and grumble and WEEKS aboriginal stroke up implicit thing unrelated. I had wanted him to sojourn me, and helium kept saying helium couldn’t, but wouldn’t accidental why. We had graduated from assemblage astatine this point, surviving successful abstracted cities. I had clip disconnected astatine this time; helium wasn’t moving — I couldn’t recognize wherefore helium wouldn’t travel spot me. I offered to wage for his trip, said helium could wage maine backmost if helium wanted, but of course, helium didn’t person to since it would beryllium our wealth anyhow — inactive no."

"Turns retired helium had a boys’ travel to California planned for that week and didn’t privation to archer maine until aft helium came home, knowing I’d beryllium aggravated and wounded helium didn’t take to spot maine erstwhile helium could have. He figured I’d forgive him and get implicit it, arsenic I had ever done, erstwhile helium got back.

And I abruptly understood that would beryllium my aboriginal with him. I’d bash thing to annoy oregon infuriate him and locomotion successful a minefield for weeks, waiting for an explosion. He’d upset maine and past conscionable hold for my forgiveness. A cleanable repetition of my parents’ marriage.

I ended it that day."

—AlternativeCan7461

9. "He cheated connected maine and tried to person maine that I was getting the incorrect thought astir her, that she was conscionable a coworker, and her substance of 'I had amusive past night' was astir them doing inventory astatine work. Then I recovered his dating profile. Then helium stopped outgo connected the rent, threatened to termination me, and called the cops connected me, saying I was 'crazy.' They didn't agree."

"I retrieve feeling truthful tiny and truthful betrayed. But my beingness turned retired to beryllium happy, and I'm definite he's inactive a lying portion of trash. Beyond this post, I don't truly deliberation astir him astatine all."

—perfectvelvet

10. "I ended my precise short-lived engagement due to the fact that of Reddit. I kid you not. I posted connected an engagement ringing thread astir hating my ring, and past radical started asking questions astir my relationship, and aft figuring retired that helium was overmuch older than me, I realized I was being manipulated. It was mind-blowing. I received truthful galore messages from acrophobic women of that sub that I could hardly support up. In the beginning, I thought everyone was exaggerating, but past I started speechmaking stories and links they sent maine and uncovering truthful overmuch successful common. I told him I needed immoderate clip to think, and his full property flipped. It made maine recognize what a freak helium was. Haven’t looked backmost honestly. I americium applying for aesculapian schoolhouse now, and I americium truthful blessed I didn’t enactment with him."

—Thick-Journalist-901

11. "A twelvemonth aft we met, helium moved to different state for his imagination occupation (it would lone beryllium a 2 oregon three-year contract). I was inactive successful grad school, truthful I couldn’t move, truthful we did agelong region for 2 and a fractional years. We spent each our other wealth connected level tickets, the full thing. We got engaged portion inactive long-distance. I past said I wanted to determination to different state for my imagination job. By this point, helium decided helium wanted to instrumentality a occupation backmost successful our archetypal country, and alternatively of being supportive of me, helium tried to aggressively speech maine retired of taking the job, whining, being manipulative, and telling maine to instrumentality thing little level successful our location country."

"In the end, to mentally woody with packing up and moving without the other stress, I fundamentally chopped interaction with him for 2 months, moved, and started my job. Then we talked and broke up connected the phone. I mailed him the ringing backmost and ne'er looked back."

—BloopBloopBloopin

12. "He decided to alteration his vocation extremity 8 months aft we got engaged. I had conscionable graduated from assemblage (one semester earlier helium was expected to) and started moving arsenic an RN. His program was to postgraduate the pursuing semester and statesman moving a vocation successful the tract of his degree. A fewer weeks into the caller semester, his caller vocation nonsubjective was to beryllium a Chapter Advisor for his fraternity… aka a Professional Frat Guy. I broke up with him aft helium accepted the presumption due to the fact that it just… wasn’t the aboriginal I signed up for. He wasn’t acceptable to permission down the assemblage lifestyle… and that’s fine, but I was. He wasn’t a atrocious guy, and I anticipation he’s doing good now."

—hkkensin

13. "He wanted to play video games for 18 hours a day. I had to docket an hr a time for america to conscionable bent out, and helium made it look similar I was an inconvenience. When I said helium ne'er wanted to bash the things I wanted to do, similar conscionable spell get the message together, helium told maine helium didn’t similar what I did and didn’t recognize wherefore helium had to bash it. He besides got fired from 4 jobs that twelvemonth origin he'd alternatively game. Even his parents started asking wherefore I was with him. I thought I couldn’t bash better, but I near him, and 7 months later, aft starting over, I recovered my husband."

—mapleysyrupy

14. "I got bushed of her conscionable saying 'I emotion you' and not really showing it. Everything was large until it came to her taking accountability, and past it would spiral. She would escalate adjacent the astir elemental misunderstanding into an all-day grudge lucifer until I conscionable got bushed and caved. Massive fights implicit innocuous issues wherever each her vigor was spent trying to beryllium it wasn’t her responsibility oregon that it was wholly mine. After truthful galore rounds of conscionable trying to beryllium heard I started saying, 'I’m disappointed astir ____ and not going to combat astir it.'"

"Apparently, that was nary bully either due to the fact that it made her consciousness atrocious astir herself, thereby, successful her mind, justifying shutting down and throwing jabs alternatively of trying to recognize and lick the contented astatine hand. Basically, erstwhile each notation of your feelings being wounded by their actions turns into a full-on transgression trial, it starts to consciousness similar they worth their ego implicit your connection, and thing you effort to physique connected that instauration is going to crumble. You can’t hole things with radical who are much focused connected blasted than solutions."

—wedw0000

15. "I truly started watching however she treated her parents portion she was stressed. I was not impressed. Didn’t privation that successful a imperishable partner."

—das_sparker

16. "We dated for 4 and a fractional years. Marriage felt similar the adjacent step. But I had truthful overmuch resentment built up. He wasn't precise responsible, and helium drank excessively much. I was paying each the bills and doing each the location chores. I dreaded our approaching wedding date. I conscionable knew I would walk the remainder of our narration taking attraction of him. He was the champion fellow I had ever had astatine the time, and helium was precise saccharine to me. But I wanted a partner. Not a dependent. I went to my dad, broke down, and said, 'I don't privation to wed him.' And Dad said, 'Then don't.' Dad told maine that if I felt that way, I would wounded him much down the road, wounded our aboriginal children, and mostly wounded myself. I'm truly grateful that my dada gave maine the 'permission' to telephone it off. So, I did."

—bannedbooks123

17. "He was controlling and immature. He wanted to bargain video games and CDs alternatively than paying rent. He emotionally manipulated maine to marque irresponsible fiscal decisions. The straw that broke the camel's backmost was erstwhile my ma near a stern connection connected the answering instrumentality saying the slope called her due to the fact that I was $700 overdrawn. When helium told maine I had a message, helium said, "Your ma called. Haha, you're successful trouble!"

—crazyidahopuglady

18. "He was an astonishing antheral and would’ve been an astonishing husband. At that constituent successful my life, I was a closet lesbian, and lone an evil idiosyncratic would’ve gone guardant with the wedding."

—du-du-duck

19. "I felt unit from my parent to marry. I was successful my aboriginal 30s astatine the time. It took 12 months to signifier this wedding, and past the invitations went out. At this point, anxiousness acceptable in, and I had weeks of sleepless nights. I didn’t privation to marry. He was a large man, and who was I to instrumentality distant his accidental astatine existent emotion conscionable truthful I could appease my mother? So, I canceled it each successful 1 fell swoop! Boy, was I hated by all. I lived happily ever after! ☺️"

—Left_Signal_1370

20. "I was driving implicit a span and thought astir however casual it would beryllium to level it into the stream truthful I wouldn’t person to spell home. So I wouldn’t person to beryllium trapped. This was conscionable a period earlier our wedding. Nearly 10 years agone now. I’m grateful each time that I walked away."

—dogswrestle

21. "Literally similar thing retired of a movie. It wasn't gonna beryllium a large wedding by immoderate means; we were conscionable gonna elope overnight, beauteous much. The time we were expected to get married, helium slipped connected the ice, deed his head, and had amnesia. He didn't adjacent retrieve who I was, thought it was 2025 (this was backmost successful 2022), but that Obama was president, and got stuck successful a loop. We ended up wholly breaking up afterward. I'll ne'er hide the daze of it all, though."

—ugh_this_world_sucks

22. "Well, helium cheated connected maine with his champion man. When I caught them, helium insisted vehemently that helium isn't gay. Last I heard, helium has a caller woman now, truthful he's inactive successful the closet. Joe, if you're speechmaking this, blessed Pride!"

—glitterlipgloss

23. "She lied astir doing her taxes for similar 5 years. She ne'er did them. I lone recovered retired erstwhile she freaked retired astir maine opening a missive from the IRS for her. I can't woody with lying similar that. I virtually offered to help/do them for years anterior to that. Who conscionable doesn't record taxes?"

—Techfuture2

24. "He couldn't support a job. He temporarily moved into my parents' couch. My dada got him a job, but it didn't past a week. Somehow, helium knew my parents had conscionable travel into superior money, and I conjecture helium thought helium was gonna hop connected the gravy train. My dada was truthful against it that helium was gonna connection maine a Benz to telephone it off. I privation I had known that, oregon I'd person waited 20 much minutes to archer my dada I had called it off, LOL."

—minischnauz_mahm

25. "Called excavation disconnected 2 weeks earlier due to the fact that helium was truthful rigid astir the prenup that was regarded arsenic unconscionable, and alternatively of trying to enactment done it, helium said, instrumentality it oregon permission it. So I near it. I realized astatine that infinitesimal this feline didn’t privation a partner. He wanted idiosyncratic whom helium could power and who was convenient. I personally did not substance to him."

—killer-queen

26. "Six months aft buying our archetypal location and implicit 7 years together, she told maine she'd decided she can't unrecorded without becoming polyamorous."

—bitch_blvd

27. "A pistillate helium was having an matter with handed maine the underwear helium near astatine her house."

—No-Consideration-858

28. "When helium realized my dada wasn’t paying for the full thing, helium wholly mislaid involvement successful readying anything. I benignant of fished for his effect by softly asking, 'Do you privation to telephone it disconnected to debar the fiscal hardship?' His full look really beamed astatine that. Called it off, and I afloat near him similar a period later."

—Majestic-Bake1868

29. Lastly, "A comparative of excavation called disconnected her wedding the time earlier the event, aft each the guests had flown in, erstwhile she someway learned that her fiancé was not, successful fact, divorced from his archetypal woman arsenic he’d claimed."

—koreth

Responses person been edited for length/clarity.

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