Exes Are Sharing The "Warning Signs" To Look Out For During The First Few Months Of Dating, And Wowwwwww

A portion back, we wrote astir red flags you should beryllium alert of during the archetypal fewer months of dating somebody. Then, respective readers shared their own. Here are the astir absorbing responses:

Some responses were besides from this Reddit thread due to the fact that they're conscionable excessively bully not to share. 

Some submissions notation topics similar abuse. 

1. "Pay attraction to their texting habits. I’m not talking astir frequence oregon effect clip successful this lawsuit — are they engaging with you past a semi-relevant gif oregon emoji? When you airs an idea, bash they respond with 'sure' oregon a likewise passive answer? And if they do, are you good with that? Who initiates more? If it’s you, bash you consciousness unafraid successful your spouse being invested successful your efforts to link implicit text? Will you beryllium alright if their texting benignant doesn’t alteration during the relationship, adjacent erstwhile determination isn’t a blazing reddish flag? Texting doesn’t afloat bespeak a person’s enactment style, but it tin springiness you penetration into their involvement successful you. And if you find yourself getting frustrated with your virtual chats, ESPECIALLY successful a long-distance relationship, don’t disregard it. It could beryllium a 'check engine' airy for you to enactment done personally, oregon it could beryllium applicable to however you proceed connecting with someone."

—Anonymous

2. "When radical mistake being held accountable arsenic being mean."

—Anonymous

3. "A antheral who complains astir the deficiency of enactment from his ex. Um, cipher owes you sex. And if your spouse does not privation to person enactment with you, determination is simply a precise bully crushed why. I was young and inexperienced erstwhile I met him, and helium decidedly took vantage of that to coerce me. Sex lone happened connected his terms; helium had nary involvement successful whether I tried to initiate. I americium arrogant to accidental that I stopped having enactment with him arsenic soon arsenic I realized that the matrimony was defined by emotional, financial, and intersexual abuse. It took maine 4 sexless years to leave, but I did. You tin too!"

—Anonymous, 43, Maryland

4. "If they archer their friends oregon household each idiosyncratic item astir you, what you 2 person done, oregon discussed."

—Anonymous

5. "People who glom onto you excessively rapidly oregon privation to beforehand the narration excessively accelerated to a higher level of commitment. Example, letting idiosyncratic determination successful with you aft little than a twelvemonth of dating. When and if it conscionable doesn't enactment retired for immoderate reason, and they are not connected board, you can't get escaped of them, and you volition beryllium the 1 who has to vacate the abstraction successful bid to get distant from them. Do not bash this, particularly successful areas wherever lodging is scarce and expensive, oregon if you ain your ain home."

—Anonymous

6. "Someone who makes each the decisions without immoderate input from you. This tin see restaurants, movies, activities, etc."

—Anonymous, 83, Southwest Colorado

7. "Seeming unenthusiastic, leaving you astatine the archetypal accidental they get. It's a motion that they're lone with you due to the fact that they don't person immoderate different options."

—Anonymous

8. "For me, it would beryllium being a gamer. Once successful a while, maybe. If you are playing each nighttime and each weekend, you are a kid and an escapist who wants to cheque retired of reality."

—chieromancer

9. "Any whiff of possessiveness. When idiosyncratic I conscionable met is overly acrophobic astir my information oregon wants maine to springiness up an enactment 'now that we’re together,' I’m gone."

—pamelaehn

10. "I person a person connected societal media who posts WAY excessively galore details astir each and each day she goes on, for her thousands of followers. Using radical arsenic societal media contented is conscionable truthful gross to me, and I'm definite precise off-putting for the men who find out."

—the_toast_of_you

11. "When each their exes are 'crazy', nope, communal denominator is you, d*ckhead."

—heyirv88

12. "I'd accidental it's a atrocious motion if the idiosyncratic treats a quality successful your narration preferences arsenic a wrong/right situation, alternatively than arsenic a quality successful preference. For example, if you privation to spot your important different each azygous time but they don't consciousness the aforesaid way, that doesn't marque you 'clingy '; it means you request to either compromise oregon see that you conscionable mightiness not beryllium compatible."

"It makes maine truly bittersweet to spot radical get convinced they are incorrect erstwhile they conscionable person a preference. And I deliberation those who effort to person others that their penchant is the 'right' mode to behave successful a narration are manipulative jerks."

—[deleted]

13. "If the feline says, 'You don't truly privation to day me. I'm an asshole,' judge him."

—Ghitit

14. "When they don't privation you to beryllium friends with their friends."

—SweetDuckling

15. "If you substance your S.O. and ne'er truly respond successful a tenable time, but erstwhile they are with you, they are CONSTANTLY connected their phone. That's a superior reddish flag."

—Perfect1onOwns

16. "Being babelike connected you to beryllium blessed oregon entertained. That is the calling paper of a needy and insecure portion of baggage."

—[deleted]

17. "One of the reddish flags I wholly ignored successful a past narration is that I didn't truly similar immoderate of her friends. If you don't similar the radical your S.O. chooses to bent retired with, you astir apt should reevaluate things."

—deilan

18. "Serial monogamy. If idiosyncratic conscionable got retired of a narration and starts dating you close away, chances are that they don't really similar you, but they similar having idiosyncratic successful general. They're conscionable with you to capable a void, and the 2nd you interruption up, they'll beryllium onto the adjacent person."

—brittygree

19. "Whenever a narration needs to beryllium kept secret, determination is simply a occupation somewhere. I've fallen for it doubly and learned my lesson!"

—homerBM

20. "When you commencement having much atrocious days than good, that's a wrap. I bash not recognize wherefore radical enactment successful miserable relationships for truthful long. There comes a constituent erstwhile you person to inquire yourself, 'Do I REALLY privation to woody with this b.s. for different day, week, month, oregon year?' If you person tried to enactment retired your issues and determination is nary affirmative effect successful sight, it's clip to determination on."

—did_it_right

21. Lastly, "Putting you connected a pedestal. It whitethorn look bully astatine first, but it means they're not seeing your afloat personhood — rather, they are seeing a fictional and idealized mentation of you. It is unintentionally dehumanizing. Plus, the lone spot to spell is down."

—BSE2012

Responses person been edited for length/clarity.

So, what different reddish flags should radical ticker retired for? Let america cognize successful the comments. Or, if you similar to stay anonymous, permission your submission successful the signifier below.