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Reddit idiosyncratic u/overthinkerinmyfeels asked the r/AskWomen community: "Women who person had threesomes, what was your acquisition like?" The thread promptly filled with women anxious to stock their scope of experiences and advice. Some BuzzFeed Community members besides opened up astir their experiences with threesomes. Here's what they revealed:
1. "It was a large experience! It was during my champion friend's wedding, which was implicit the people of a agelong play successful Austin. Our communal friend, with whom we went to college, flew successful from the northeast with her new(ish) boyfriend. We ate luncheon unneurotic the archetypal day, and I felt a vibe, truthful aboriginal astatine the excavation party, erstwhile drinks were flowing, I told my person if she and her fellow wanted to person a threesome, I would beryllium down. She got truly excited and talked to him astir it beauteous overmuch immediately. We each went to drawback a wound unneurotic aft swimming and were each ace flirty. It was truthful overmuch fun! When the evening rolled astir astatine the wedding dinner, she whispered they wanted to research me. On the mode backmost to the hotel, we shared an Uber and were secretly handsy."
"Once we got to the hotel, we grabbed a portion and went to my room. It was truthful overmuch amusive and truthful hot. We each came a batch and each took turns with each other. HIGHLY RECOMMEND."
2. "I've had my just stock of male-female-female threesomes. The ones that progressive exploring with friends were awkward and created baggage afterward. I wouldn't bash that again. The much spur-of-the-moment one-night things were hella fun. The 1 spouse I did a batch of experimenting with was a large communicator, and we had consistent, wide boundaries and rules wherever we some felt respected, truthful erstwhile opportunities arose, we could conscionable spell with the travel and person a bully time, and we did!"
3. "Female-male-female. I was their contiguous supervisor astatine 1 time. There was ever intersexual hostility betwixt the 3 of us, whether it was the one-on-one moving connected specialized projects oregon conscionable discussing work-related issues astatine lunchtime oregon different times. Nothing ever happened erstwhile we worked together. I went connected to different occupation with different company. One day, the 3 of america happened to beryllium astatine the aforesaid event, and we reconnected. It turns retired the 2 females had had conversations astir what it would beryllium similar to person a threesome. I was not the focal constituent of their conversation, but erstwhile we reconnected, they suggested we effort it. We each agreed that it was the astir unthinkable enactment that immoderate of america had ever had. It has continued for three-plus years, and we proceed to bask each different with trips, dates, etc. We person discussed what-ifs and are happily readying a semipermanent future."
—Anonymous
4. "I've had several. The acquisition turns retired to beryllium champion if everyone communicates astir their desires beforehand. Best experience: I erstwhile had my boyfriend's different woman person REACH OUT TO ME due to the fact that she was truthful thankful for his assistance connected her home. She asked maine if she and I could program a worshipping evening for him. She was alert of my unfastened sexuality. She and I cooked dinner, wore robes, I played piano, and she danced. Then, arsenic the evening got aboriginal and we each had much wine, we moved to the bedroom. I enjoyed sharing my fellow with her and watching her explicit her emotion and gratitude."
5. "I tried it erstwhile with a feline I was dating (casually) and different miss from Tinder (all precise consensual). Anyway, I mislaid involvement portion doing it and checked retired halfway through. I told them they could person enactment with each different due to the fact that I was not into it astatine all! As a bi girl, I thought I would bask it overmuch more. Anyway, I came retired of the bedroom, ordered food, and work thing connected my Kindle until they came out. Then, I hung retired with them, ate, and went home. I stopped dating him and ne'er had different threesome aft that. But that acquisition made maine recognize that I americium highly monogamous!"
6. "I did immoderate earlier matrimony and a fewer much during marriage. The ones during matrimony person virtually ruined my marriage. It's the worst determination I've ever made (almost). I can't unsee oregon unhear. I emotion kinky enactment with aggregate partners, but I wasn't acceptable for the pillow speech and stuff, and my hubby was WAY excessively into it. It made maine sick for years."
7. "My experiences person been affirmative overall, but it's not thing I would similar to effort again. As a bisexual woman, I experienced it portion azygous with a feline and a girl, and different clip with 2 girls (one of them was a alien who aboriginal became a large friend). In my opinion, arsenic agelong arsenic each boundaries are respected and discussed beforehand, it volition enactment retired fine. Honestly, it's rather overrated, and I overmuch similar the intimacy of a azygous partner. It's mode much fulfilling and satisfying, physically and emotionally, truthful it's a large nary for my fellow and maine successful my relationship. If you are single, it's an absorbing acquisition to person if you are into it; if you are successful a consecutive monogamous relationship, don't. Chances are 1 of you volition travel retired of it with spot issues and feeling violated and regretful. Don't cave into your partner's unit to consent; that's abuse."
8. "I had my archetypal threesome astatine property 19 with 2 astonishing guys successful their 30s. We vacationed unneurotic for a fewer years, and I learned truthful overmuch from these 2 fantastic humans. After getting joined to my husband, we entered the swinging lifestyle. Sometimes, we spell blistery and dense for a fewer months; sometimes, we spell without swinging for a fewer years. We person been joined for 33 years. Our connection is constant. We genuinely judge that swinging has made our matrimony stronger."
"We plaything with different couples, azygous males oregon azygous females. We'll sometimes plaything with the aforesaid mates for months oregon years, and sometimes, it's conscionable a one-night stand. We person rules we person formed implicit the years and instrumentality to them nary substance what happens. If 1 wants to alteration oregon crook a rule, we speech astir it erstwhile we are not connected a day truthful we tin sermon it thoroughly.
We ne'er signifier immoderate benignant of affectional transportation to anyone different than friends with benefits. It's not for everyone! It's not thing you should effort unless your concern is very, precise solid. But, I volition say, the connection gets to beryllium top-notch. Our friends who person nary hint what we bash successful the privateness of our chamber each remark connected however successful emotion we are and inquire our proposal connected improving their partnerships. We, of course, bash not archer them astir the swinging."
9. "I had a female-female-male acceptable up, and honestly, threesomes dependable a batch much amusive than they are. I was the 3rd for a couple, and it genuinely felt precise emotionally wrecking. The enactment portion of it was okay, but I couldn't look to bask it due to the fact that it made maine consciousness precise empty. I tried it respective times, but I ever felt lonely and bittersweet astatine the end. It wasn't thing they were doing. I conjecture I didn't recognize I needed much affectional intimacy earlier the physical. I wouldn't bash it again. It took a spot of a toll connected my intelligence health."
10. "It was enjoyable astatine first, but my friends-with-benefits got their feelings wounded beauteous quickly. Never again. I don't bash sharing, and I've seen it messiness up much relationships than amended them."
11. "I've had many, ranging from bully to spectacular. I'm a large instrumentality of radical stuff. I'd ne'er bash strict monogamy due to the fact that I similar it truthful overmuch (accidental monogamy, yes, but I don't get progressive with radical who aren't besides into radical play). But I prime my partners good and americium besides precise bully astatine managing radical stuff. I person a bully consciousness of what everyone wants, including erstwhile it's someone's archetypal radical acquisition and making definite it's a bully clip for them. I've done beauteous overmuch each mentation that involves radical you know. I've been successful a relationship, and we brought successful a third. I've been successful a throuple. I've been the 3rd for different couples. I've conscionable had casual enactment with a mates of radical I knew who besides wanted to. And I've watched portion a mates had sex. It's each great. I've besides had foursomes and moresomes."
12. "It was nice. My bestie's bi and had been precocious divorced from a antheral and wanted to research comfortably with a woman. I was down to effort it with her, truthful we picked an enthusiastic antheral person and had our evening. Sleeping with a pistillate made maine recognize I'm bi, too! The antheral person besides had a spectacular time."
13. "I did it erstwhile with my roommate and her boyfriend. She was poly, and we've ever had a spicy relationship wherever we buss successful the hallways and spot each different naked, but helium was conscionable getting comfy with the full idea. He made the archetypal determination erstwhile she wasn't determination successful the room. Later, we told her we did it, and 1 night, we each got drunk and went for it. It was the champion threesome truthful far. It was afloat of emotion and passion. I did it again with the aforesaid dude and my existent boyfriend. It was not truthful large considering they weren't into each other, but my fellow was precise focused connected making maine happy, truthful that was nice."
14. "I've had a mates of male-female-male threesomes and perfectly loved them. They tin beryllium precise aggravated and afloat of truthful overmuch tendency and pleasure. There's thing similar having 2 men passionately desiring and worshipping you."
15. "Many, many, many. My hubby and I are some bi and were swingers and present poly. In exploring polyamory, the mentation of being monogamous arsenic a intersexual penchant made a clump of consciousness to me, and aft years of experience, it seems to beryllium the case. If idiosyncratic successful the threesome is fundamentally monogamous, it volition astir apt not crook out. If radical are liable for what works for them and pass well…it is often FABULOUS! We became swingers aboriginal successful life, each having near sexually and emotionally unfulfilling marriages. It was thing we did together. Over time, it seems to person go a intersexual penchant — threesomes with bi men, occasional woman clip for maine successful a radical scene. It worked for america for 15 years. My hubby has been retired of committee sexually for respective years. We person had fantastic experiences and tons of fantastic memories."
—Anonymous
16. "I've had a mates of male-female-female threesomes and 1 oregon 2 female-female-female ones. Meh, each the mode around. I don't retrieve ever orgasming. It's 1 of those situations wherever little is much for me."
17. "In my experience, they're a batch much amusive erstwhile everyone progressive is single, and bonus points if everyone is already friends. One specified lawsuit led to waking up the adjacent morning, having java together, much oregon little high-fiving, and past going astir our idiosyncratic days. The 2 I've had with a spouse were implicit garbage owed to said spouse not pursuing tenable rules and playing dumb astir crossing lines. In each scenarios, it's adjuvant to retrieve that 1 of you volition beryllium getting little enactment astatine immoderate constituent during the process and mightiness consciousness awkward astir it. In that case, beryllium the 'support' if you want. Or, footwear backmost and ticker if that's your thing."
18. "I had 1 with my fellow and a person of ours. We were hanging out, making jokes astir it, and past it happened. Things got truly weird aft that constituent betwixt america all. We tried to marque the friendships work, but it led to the extremity of the narration and the extremity of the friendships. I would bash it again with a antithetic affectional setup. The enactment was great, though."
19. "I had a threesome with my antheral spouse and his pistillate friend. They hadn't seen each different successful years but were lone ever friends and had ne'er slept with each other. It was amazing, if a small weird, age-wise for the pistillate arsenic she was astir a decennary older than me. Important to note: I'm known for not discussing my intersexual habits with our friends. It conscionable makes maine truly uncomfortable. However, she's portion of the extended person group. She wouldn't unopen up astir it aft the fact, to the constituent that you'd deliberation it was her archetypal clip either successful a threesome oregon sleeping with a pistillate (of which it was neither)."
"I didn't find retired until respective weeks aboriginal erstwhile my partner's champion person told maine that she kept going connected astir my show specifically and each lurid item to anyone that would listen. Our full person radical knows and has brought it up to maine some one-on-one AND successful beforehand of our different friends, not retired of interest but successful salacious curiosity! Didn't deliberation I had to punctual her not to buss and archer erstwhile we had each agreed beforehand that it would marque the radical relationship dynamic weird to sermon it aft the fact.
Maybe it's my Gen-Z nature, but it truly soured the full acquisition and made maine curse disconnected ever sleeping with anyone who remotely knows america ever again, arsenic I was truthful livid astatine this pistillate for exposing maine successful a mode I did not consent to."
—Anonymous
20. "I (22f) was a 3rd to a joined mates I went to schoolhouse with, and it was awesome, but I was being pulled successful 2 directions by some of them. It helped maine fig retired my sexuality and was fun, but I wouldn't person a threesome with my existent boyfriend. I don't privation to stock him oregon spot him person enactment with idiosyncratic different than me, but being a 3rd erstwhile I was azygous was a chill experience!"
21. "I've had two. I'm a lesbian, but it took maine galore years to travel to presumption with that, truthful I had a batch of weird experiments with men successful my aboriginal 20s. One was with 2 guys traveling Europe and having threesomes successful each country. Tbh, it was awful. I felt similar an entity and didn't bask it astatine all. Years aft I came out, I had an astonishing threesome with 2 women I had been dating (I'm poly), and it was truthful saccharine and fun. Would decidedly bash that again."
22. "I loved male-male-female — each that attraction for me! I hated male-female-female; it made maine consciousness similar the feline liked the different miss more, and I truly hatred going down connected women. Once we were successful it, I tried to beryllium a squad subordinate and marque everybody consciousness sexually wanted and get off, but I'm astir apt ne'er going to beryllium intersexual with different pistillate again. I'm straight, truthful it makes sense."
23. "I've lone had 1 truthful acold with 2 different women, and my ain acquisition was that it was large for everyone. It was betwixt me, idiosyncratic I was starting to date, and 1 of her friends. I bring that up due to the fact that I person a feeling that if immoderate benignant of half-serious narration had been involved, determination would person been immoderate baggage determination successful the procession. They were some precise open-minded and easygoing, which lowered expectations for everyone. But, it hits otherwise erstwhile you're emotionally invested successful someone, whether it's a FWB oregon thing else."
24. "I had a fewer male-male-female threesomes with 2 guys I was dating simultaneously. Both were bisexual and unfastened to poly relationships. We honestly had truthful overmuch fun. We would get together, play video games oregon committee games, portion a bit, devour dinner, and past spell to the bedroom. In the morning, we would each 3 cuddle and kiss; usually, 1 of the boys would marque america coffee. Then, we would get up and marque breakfast. It was honestly all-around great. As for the sex, it's inactive immoderate of the champion I've ever had! Being wholly doted and dominated by 2 large radical was awesome. When they fto maine switch, well, that was amusive too."
25. "Two friends and I (all women) had 1 successful college. It wasn't a large acquisition due to the fact that we hadn't discussed it beforehand. We were each drunk, and though we're each bi, nary of america had been with a pistillate before. None of america knew what we were doing. We each 'enjoyed' ourselves, but past the adjacent morning, I woke up with 1 hellhole of a hangover and wasn't definite I could adjacent look them afterward. We each got brunch and agreed that we wouldn't marque a large woody retired of it. They ended up benignant of being FWBs/hooking up/dating/being successful a weird, amorphous narration space, and I stayed retired of it. I don't deliberation I'd bash it again."
"It's been rather a fewer years since then, and I've realized that I truly bask enactment overmuch much erstwhile it happens successful the discourse of a relationship, not a hook-up, and I'm monogamous, truthful I can't spot myself feeling comfy with it again, nary substance the circumstances. Never accidental never, but it's beauteous improbable with wherever I americium now."
26. "I had a threesome with a male-female couple, some bi. It was awesome. We went retired for drinks to spot if determination was a spark (there was) and yet planned the threesome for a antithetic day. They made a batch of effort to marque maine consciousness comfy and desired. They were some ace hot, and I had a large time. They ended up closing their narration earlier we could conscionable again, but I miss them."
27. "It's a mixed bag. It was amusive successful the moment, but I was truly lone into it for 1 person, and if I had known myself a small better, I would've said no. I was each smiles, but a fewer days afterward, I felt truly bittersweet and recoiled truthful hard from my sexuality that I really considered I mightiness beryllium asexual. I would person to beryllium with myself for a agelong clip earlier considering it again."
28. "I've done it with 2 antithetic couples. One was truly bad, but I became a FWB happening with the other. The 1 was atrocious due to the fact that determination was NO COMMUNICATION AND NO BOUNDARIES. The dude was crossing galore lines, and I near with them fighting. The other, we met archetypal and communicated each boundary. It was amazing. Another idiosyncratic and I chopped my past threesome short. It was with friends. One was doing it to get with me. It turns retired the different was doing it to get with the idiosyncratic who wanted me, truthful it got messy."
29. And: "My semipermanent fellow and I person had a fewer with men and women. It's ever been a large experience. Before our relationship, I had dealt with spot issues and jealousy from cheating partners, truthful I ne'er thought successful a cardinal years I'd beryllium capable to person a threesome comfortably. Now, I've had respective implicit 5 years and person loved each experience! The cardinal was communication, check-ins, and choosing a bully idiosyncratic who understands boundaries and feels welcome! It's not for everyone, but I've ne'er had a atrocious experience."
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