21 Uncomfortable, Cringey, Or Just Plain Manipulative Public Marriage Proposals That Scream "I'm Only Doing This To Pressure You Into Saying Yes"

User u/Gilded_Violet asked the women of the Ask Women subreddit how they truly consciousness astir nationalist proposals. Some women said that if a mates is connected the aforesaid leafage astir matrimony — and has discussed the connection beforehand — getting engaged successful a nationalist mounting tin really beryllium sweet. However, A LOT of women hated the full conception and felt truly powerfully astir it, stating that a nationalist connection is simply a cardinal times worse than a edifice announcing your day and adjacent jokingly comparing it to being held hostage.

And the women who shared their ain stories astir getting projected to successful beforehand of a crowd? Well, the bulk felt manipulated, disrespected, oregon ace mortified by the full thing. Here are a fewer of their stories:

1. "I’m not a fan. I was projected to downtown, successful the mediate of our city, and determination were a ton of radical astir watching. After my spouse astatine the clip proposed, and I said yes, helium turned astir and took a monolithic bow to the crowd. Then helium threw my manus successful the aerial similar I'd conscionable won a boxing championship. We managed to enactment unneurotic different 11 months, but the full vibe of the connection acceptable the code for that time. He decidedly didn’t cognize maine arsenic good arsenic I thought, and I intelligibly didn’t cognize him good capable either."

—u/darklight285

2. "Can confirm: precise overmuch not fun. I got booed retired of the edifice aft I said no. Don’t bash it, people. 😩"

—u/Bekind-toyourmind

3. "My fellow astatine the clip projected astatine my day enactment successful beforehand of everyone. Because everyone was watching, and I didn't privation to marque a scene, I felt that I had nary enactment but to accidental yes, adjacent though helium was manipulative and not a bully person. We broke up soon after, but it was not pleasant erstwhile everyone thought we were happily getting married."

—u/Magickxxx

4. "My ex projected to maine successful beforehand of my full family, including each of my extended household who was visiting for my cousin’s funeral. It was unspeakable timing. He sang a opus (poorly) and asked successful beforehand of everyone. I had already antecedently told him nary due to the fact that helium needed to get his crap unneurotic (get a job/have goals successful life). He didn’t, but I felt obligated to accidental yes. We ended it a period and a fractional aboriginal erstwhile helium inactive didn’t person thing together. Thank God we ne'er got married!"

5. "My ex projected to maine aft I got disconnected of a plane...in the fucking airport. Then helium got huffy that I didn’t buss him. It was truthful embarrassing."

—u/Kmschw

6. "Hate it. My hubby did this. He planned for my full household to travel down to his mom's house. His ma called maine and asked maine to travel implicit to assistance hole her tile. I walked successful and my mom, dad, sister, and brother, on with my husband's mom, dad, and sister, were each staring astatine me. My beloved hubby was connected his genu and said only, 'Will you wed me?' After I accepted, helium asked wherefore I didn’t cry. 'Ummmm due to the fact that everyone was looking astatine me, and besides you didn’t accidental thing sweet.' He besides didn’t marque definite I was showered oregon dressed nicely. Like, I thought I was doing housework, truthful I came successful ripped leggings and didn't lavation my hair. Later, I told him that portion it was precise saccharine to invitation everyone, I did NOT similar that. Marriage is for the mates not everyone else. He really ended up re-proposing aboriginal connected successful beforehand of a water during sunset."

—u/DogMoM2011568

7. "It truly puts you connected the spot. I got signifier fright and blacked retired my spouse's full connection due to the fact that we were being watched similar a play. And the publication said I had to accidental yes."

—u/shannon_nonnahs

8. "I was publically projected to — twice. I’m a monolithic extrovert and adjacent then, it threw maine off. I knew the proposals were apt to happen, but I had nary hint it was going to hap successful public. I can’t ideate however introverted radical indispensable consciousness erstwhile being projected to successful public."

—u/More_netflix_please·

9. "I was projected to connected signifier earlier my favourite set played. I was excessively young to recognize this astatine the time, but I should person trusted my gut and said nary alternatively of worrying astir however helium mightiness consciousness if I said nary successful beforehand of each those people. In short, it ruined my night. I was expecting to spot my favourite set perform, and ended up having a pit successful my tummy and not enjoying the amusement astatine all. And we divorced 3 abbreviated years aboriginal (by my prompting, FWIW)."

—u/lcmillz

10. "Not for me. I was projected to successful beforehand of the castle astatine Disney and soooo galore radical were astir us. I’m introverted arsenic fuck and would person loved much privateness for specified an intimate moment. I felt similar I had to accidental yes and beryllium each omg gleeful and shit, which isn’t me. The full happening wasn’t me. She’s my ex now."

—u/Unlucky_Blueberry_

11. "After I'd been precise wide astir being acceptable to wed him if helium ever felt acceptable himself, helium projected successful beforehand of a ton of friends. I loved and hated it. On the 1 hand, it felt similar a peculiar event, but I was truly not excited to beryllium photographed and beryllium the halfway of attention. I knew based connected his behaviour that it was coming, but I inactive couldn't header with that galore eyes connected me."

12. "Personally, not for it. Thankfully my hubby ne'er did. But I retrieve erstwhile I was younger, a feline I was friends with did it arsenic a gag successful the mediate of a buying mall, and adjacent though it wasn't real, I was inactive mortified."

13. "Not my thing. I walked out. I don’t similar to beryllium enactment successful the spotlight."

14. "I was publically projected to successful beforehand of possibly 500 radical during Christmas religion service. I hatred attention. We are divorced."

15. "In my idiosyncratic experience, it enactment maine successful a atrocious spot, and I said yes erstwhile I astir apt would person said nary otherwise. My parents were there, it was overcrowded, and determination were aggregate radical proposing each astir us. Looking back, I cringe astatine it all."

16. "My stepdad projected to my ma astatine her enactment successful beforehand of everyone, but helium besides CALLED THE LITTLE LOCAL NEWS STATION! She was so, truthful embarrassed. They person since divorced."

17. "I ever envisioned a private, intimate connection to bespeak my personality. I told my hubby aggregate times that I did not privation a nationalist proposal, particularly not astatine a restaurant. However, helium ended up proposing to maine astatine a edifice and invited our parents. It was hurtful due to the fact that helium wholly disregarded everything I asked for, which wasn’t overmuch to statesman with. He said helium didn’t deliberation I would caput due to the fact that helium invited our families and due to the fact that it was a edifice we some enjoyed. It was respective years ago, but I inactive get disappointed erstwhile I deliberation astir it."

—u/LifeInShamblez3

18. "Not quite a proposal, but erstwhile I was a caller pupil my elder twelvemonth of precocious school, a feline who I'd known for a week asked maine to homecoming astatine a pep rally successful beforehand of our schoolhouse of ~1,200 students. After helium sang the nationalist anthem, helium gave a code astir however he’d precocious been fortunate capable to conscionable the idiosyncratic he’d been looking for his full life, however he’d fallen successful emotion astatine archetypal sight, and however helium couldn’t hold to walk the remainder of his beingness getting to know…ME. He asked maine to basal up, and everyone's heads turned to look me. I did, and helium proceeded to inquire maine if I wanted to spell to homecoming with him (which was similar 2 months away??) It was mortifying and truthful embarrassing, and I ABSOLUTELY said yes owed to the unit and everyone’s expectations.

Then helium ran implicit to maine and gave maine 2 twelve roses (it was archetypal period). All time everyone was coming up to maine to speech astir it and asking maine however agelong we’d been dating. I kept telling radical we hardly knew each other. It was truthful awkward and embarrassing for me. I ended up saying nary a week later."

—u/karamobrownismydad

19. "I HATE IT. I had my 21st day enactment hijacked by a 'proposal.' We were already engaged, some our families knew, and we were conscionable waiting for my ringing to beryllium finished. But I conjecture helium wanted the full happening made much public. The enactment was astatine a nightclub with easy a 1000 people. We divorced astir arsenic rapidly arsenic we married. All the photos from that nighttime shriek 'engagement party,' and I’m near with nary untainted memories of my 21st birthday."

20. "It was awful. My ex was each astir attraction connected himself. I had driven hours to ticker him execute astatine a assemblage hoops event. I astir didn't go, but I got a batch of unit from his sister to spell ticker him. It was a large crowd, and his household was each there. When the show took a displacement and I realized what was happening, I was truthful acceptable to bolt. I knew I was being filmed and everyone was watching. It was 1 of the worst moments of signifier fright successful my life. In hindsight, I should’ve realized that my feelings were not important to him and took that arsenic a motion arsenic to however the aboriginal would beryllium with him.

Later on, my household asked wherefore I didn’t archer them however the connection happened and I admitted it was due to the fact that I was truthful embarrassed by the full ordeal that I didn’t privation to archer anyone. Anyway, he’s astir to wed the pistillate helium cheated connected maine with. And I person nary uncertainty it’ll beryllium conscionable arsenic overmuch of a 'look astatine me' benignant of lawsuit helium loves. Oh, and the idiosyncratic who took and posted that atrocious nationalist connection video won’t instrumentality it down due to the fact that it’s 'their astir liked video ever.' 🤦🏻‍♀️"

—u/Silent_Observer1414

21. And finally, "Not me, but I had a teacher erstwhile who went to Vegas with her boyfriend. He projected successful the chapel with the officiant oregon immoderate astatine the altar and her full family, whom he'd flown in. Even arsenic a teenage dork, that seemed similar unacceptably precocious pressure."

—u/Bobolequiff

Note: Some responses person been edited for magnitude and/or clarity.

How bash you consciousness astir nationalist proposals? Have you ever been portion of one? Let maine cognize down below!